Hey everyone, how’re you doing? Iβd spent so long trying to put a post together over the last few weeks when my brain refused to co-operate, but before I could publish it, things changed. Then I had to delete said post and start again, so I apologise that it has been a while. Finally, hereβs a little mini me update – briefly including major surgery foiled by a chest infection, Christmas prep and fussy felines.Β
Major Surgery Incoming…. Then Cancelled
After over four years of waiting for a surgery that I probably should have had seven years ago, I finally got a date. Saturday 3rd December 2022. November became manically busy with all the prep for the surgery, numerous appointments, medical stuff for myself and my parents, all the usual daily junk and errands and shopping. You get the picture. It was too much. I even made a folder full of instructions for my parents just in case the surgery didnβt go well, covering everything from how to set the digital alarm clock and use the Sat Nav, to how to order medications online.Β
A couple of weeks ago I caught the flu, something that hadnβt happened during the main 2 yearβs of Covid for myself or many others by the sound of it. Then I got a bit of a cough, but it wasnβt until the Thursday before surgery that it seemed like maybe it wasnβt βjust a coughβ. I got a bad feeling, though I wasnβt fully sure about what. I didnβt sleep all night and went into a downward spiral. I went to the GP on the afternoon and she found my heart rate was significantly elevated. Then she listened to my lungs and said it βsounds bad in thereβ, with lots of crackling on the lower left lobe. Yep, Iβd caught yet another chest infection. Perfect damn timing.
That chest infection resulted in the surgery being cancelled less than 24 hours before I was due to go to hospital.Β I’ve got a week of antibiotics to see if that helps. I’m nearly at the end of the course and may need to go back for steroids with antibiotics for next week. I had recurrent chest infections a few years ago that left with me permanent lung damage, so I’m not keen on it getting worse through more infections my body can’t kick.
I felt so damn guilty. Thereβs so much involved for the hospital in preparing for a surgery and it was a surgical spot on the waiting list that someone else could have had. What ridiculously bad timing and the definition of βSodβs Lawβ.
A lot was also done at home and Iβd moved certain things like medical appointments around to accommodate the procedure. But my legal case and the court date were also delayed in preparation for the surgery, even though I was against that happening. Dβoh!
Now everything is up in the air and Iβm completely bewildered and confused. Was it a sign that I shouldnβt have the surgery? After all these years of things getting worse, it seems the procedure is unlikely to confer any/many benefits (though may help stop some things from getting worse) and will come with greater risks. One of the surgeons advised this earlier in the year. It wonβt give me a life or a future back, so maybe I just need to know when to say enough is enough and accept that, but itβs not always that clear-cut. Or was it just bad timing because shit happens? After all, I have a weakened immune system, respiratory infections are pretty popular right now, and I was extra run down. Who knows. I sure donβt. I donβt know when the next surgical list is likely to be either.
I even bought a suitcase. Packed said suitcase. Bought travel tickets and sorted a taxi for my ride home. Did so much ridiculous prep on top of the usual stuff. Now I donβt have the heart to unpack it.Β
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A reminder to everyone, healthy folk and spoonies alike : You can be sensible when youβre out and not get too close to people. You can antibacterial clean all your groceries. You can wash your hands like thereβs no tomorrow. And yet you can STILL catch a cold, flu, chest infection, pneumonia, sepsis, Covid, etc. If youβre overwhelmed, too busy and getting increasingly run down, youβll be all the more open to infection and illness. PLEASE make sure to make time for yourself, to slow down and look after YOU. Itβs easier said than done, but itβs so important. Maybe youβll still catch something, but perhaps we can help reduce the chance of that or take the edge off such an acute illness. Keep warm, rest, eat well, take your meds and supplements, practice self-care and pace throughout the day. Your health and wellbeing are worth looking after.Β
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KittyKat Update
Snuggles
Virgil had avoided keeping me company in my room since the before the start of the pandemic. Should I take offence? The only way I’ve got him in there was through catnapping and carrying him in ther, but he would just bold the second I let go of him.
Funnily enough, on Friday morning, when I was in full-blown freakout spiral as per the above surgical conundrum, Virgil WILLINGLY came upstairs, sat on my bed and snuggled up right next to me! What the hell. Nearly 3 years of him not doing this and suddenly, there he is. Same thing happened through to Thursday, where I was rough, had to force myself to do anything and felt pretty empty. You’d think Virgil was too stupid preoccupied to sense anything, and yet it seems incredibly strange he decided to pick that day to cover my blankets with his fur. I loved it.
Playtime
Virgil still considers himself above the idea of playtime. Any toys Iβve ever bought him have been instantly shunned. But give the cat a long piece of dry grass and heβs happy as Larry. Go figure!
Rusting Be Gone!
Instead of being blessed by his company, Iβve been buying his love through food. I noticed a while also that he was getting an increasing amount of βrustingβ throughout his fur. Heβs a black and white cat, so his black fur will get some light brownish or rust-coloured tinge with age, but this was getting to be too much. I remembered something another blogger had written a while ago and did a little research. It turns out, deficiencies of taurine or tyrosine can cause this rusting.
I checked his current food and found no mention of such enzymes, despite it being called βcompleteβ cat food for all their nutritional needs. Pfft. Then I picked up a special cat food that should give him the taurine/tyrosine required. Deficiencies in taurine and tyrosine may affect the colour of their hair, but such deficiencies can also lead to a host of more serious problems if left long enough, so itβs an important one.
Once he has been sufficiently cute, I dish up his new food in place of his usual lunch and he dines in the kitchen rather than his bachelor pad in the garage. It has become a new routine he seems to love.
I kid you not, this stuff has been miraculous. Itβs pricier than his regular dry food but our feline owners have expensive taste sometimes. Even in the first week I started noticing a difference. A few months on and his fur is looking gorgeous. Deep black, with only some left-over rusting on his tail (what Iβd expect with age). The rest of the rusting has gone! His fur is super soft and thick and luscious, and just so black. Incredible. All it takes is a little dish at lunchtime to help him. Money well spent and an idea for other cat owners servants to consider if youβve also noticed rusting. The food I’ve been using is IAMS For Vitality Senior Dry Cat Food Chicken 800g.
Christmas Prep
A record has been set – the earliest I have ever started, completed & wrapped the Christmas shopping! π This was all done before the end of November. Iβve even done the bloody Christmas cards. Had to be prepared this year due to surgery so it had been a bit of a rush-job, and I had to wrangle with the inner Grinch, but itβs done – hurrah! Little did I know it was all for nothing, but it’s nice to know that December can be spent doing things other than Xmas prep. I actually love buying and giving presents, especially for my mum, but wrapping them when living with pain and difficult joints is a bit of a shitty saga π
I also shared on Instagram some drinkies that I got through Trnd to try. I used to love cocktails but I barely drink anymore and I don’t have the energy to even consider making fancy drinks at home. Tails Cocktails are basically ready made deliciousness for you to enjoy, just shake and pour. You could of course always add your own extra dash of juice or whatever to it (I added some pineapple as a tester, which was lovely), but it’s not necessary. This’ll be fab for a wee festive drink with Christmas lunch.
I bought us a new Christmas tree this year. As per my folks, the old one had reached a grand old age of approximately 32 years. Not bad, but you could definitely tell. It finally kicked the bucket and it was time for something new. The original one I went out and bought was gorgeous – tall, thick, full, no giant gaps. It took insane effort & the help of a very lovely woman at the till to help me get it out of the store and into my car as it was impossible for me. But apparently it was too big, according to my dad who didnβt even get it out of the box and refused to move the sofa to accommodate it. That tree had to go back and I bought a crappier one. Cheaper, but way crappier.
Weβve put it up and my parents decorated it while I was unwell upstairs. It looks reasonable, if you fill in the gaps with crackers and baubles and don’t look at the back of it.
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Thank you to everyone who reads and supports InvisiblyMe, and for all the kind comments. Thank you to my online friends for being so awesome – you know who you are. Please know you all mean a lot to me.
Iβm sorry Iβve not been around too much lately as things have been rather hectic. Iβll try to be on social media when I can, but Iβll be slow on blog posts, reading othersβ content, emails, etc for a little while longer. Nothing new there then! π
In the mean time, please take good care of yourselves β€οΈππππ
How’ve you been doing? For those that celebrate the festive holidays, have you started your Christmas prep yet?
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Oh no! I canβt imagine your anguish. For some reason things work out for the best – even when it doesnβt appear to!
I will agree since Covid there seem to be more respiratory issues – in our family anyway.
Praying for a speedy and full and miraculous recovery! May your Christmas indeed be a Merry one and better health in the upcoming new year! May God bless you and yours.
Caz, you, your Mum and Dad are prayed for daily, and I was about to email you to see how you were doing when this beautiful blog showed up. No idea why Father is not healing you yet, but I will keep praying per Luke 18:1-8.
Our tree is up and for the first time in umpteen years, I am buying Anita a Christmas present she will not be able to return. π―
It’s a sweatshirt and I’ll blog it after Christmas, for what it says.π
BTW, did you know that cats are suspected to be the most intelligent creatures next to humans based on brain size/body mass ratio. (More than dolphins and apes, and dogs are waaay down the list.) So when you throw a stick for a cat to fetch and say, “Go get it,” the cat will look at where the stick was thrown and look back at you as if to say, “You threw it, idiot. YOU go get it!” π
You made me laugh so hard with the comments on cats π You know, I’ve always suspected they’re pretty smart and can talk, they just don’t want to because they don’t want to get a job and pay taxes. Which makes them smarter than us for sure π
Oh Caz, what a palaver but as you say, it might well be the right thing but I’m sure you and your family could have done without the turmoil. I was only wondering where you were a couple of days ago as I noticed that you hadn’t posted in a while – I was so glad when the alert popped up π
I hope you and your family have a peaceful and very happy Christmas
Look after yourself
Sarah x
You’ve been through so much, Caz. My heart goes out to you as you decide what to do. As for Virgil, I didn’t know about rusting and I’m glad you explained it. Our feline friends seem to know when we aren’t doing that great. I’m glad he cuddled with you.
I’m praying for you, friend, every day. xoxo β€οΈβ€οΈ
I hope December treats you gently.
I’m sorry you got sick and your surgery got cancelled after waiting for so very long. Bugger.
Aw on the kitty. What a cutie pie.
Have a fabulous day and weekend, Caz. Take time for you. β₯
I put up my tree; that’s about all I ever do. It broke and took itself down today, taking out a few ornaments with it π
Think your tree is revolting against Christmas? π I bet they get pretty pissed off – getting shoved away in storage for 11 months of the year, then only taken out for Xmas π Any chance of it going back up and lasting another year?
Oh what a palavar. All that prep work ready for your op only to get a chest infection and op cancelled. How frustrating that will have been for you.
I hope when you are well that you don’t have too long to wait for next appointment for your op.
Christmas, I don’t buy presents than mum’s and I treat me.
The two I did buy for last year, I told them to please not buy from this year onwards and that I won’t be buying just so I don’t have the palavar of it all. Its a day off, like a weeken as I see it and as you know, I haven’t celebrated it since 2919.
Regardless I don’t cebrate it, if someone else does then I hope they enjoy it.
As Christmas falls on a Sunday this year then thats my Christmas at home, as I like Sunday’s to myself.
I shall have a chicken roast and be watching dvd’s and I may pop on Twitter that day on my private one.
Take care and I hope you are soon better. X
Oh no Caz, so sorry to hear about the cancelled (postponed?) surgery. You have been waiting such a long time for it, I know. And bless Virgil, aren’t our kitties lovely, they seem to know when their owner needs some extra tenderness. I am so impressed with the fact that you are all sorted for Christmas, though so sorry that you had to hulk the tree back and forth – the final one looks great though! I have managed to get most of my shopping done, but nowhere close to wrapping or getting the tree yet. My excuse is to get my son’s birthday out of the way on the 12th then it will be all systems go (that is the plan, anyway…).
Hoping you have a fab December Caz xxx
Thank you for the lovely comment, Jen. I’m glad you got most of the shopping done early, that’s one lot of exhaustion out of the way at least! Just wanted to say HAPPY (very belated) BIRTHDAY to your son π₯³ π xx
Oh, Caz, you’ve certainly been going through a rough patch! I wish you happy holidays and a happy, healthier new year! <3 Your tree looks festive! π
I’m sorry about your cancelled op.
At least you’re ready for Christmas! π€£
I hope you feel a bit better and have a much-needed rest.
Take care. Xx
Charlee: “Good job, Virgil. We cats are of course worshiped as gods by humans, and being gods, we are mostly aloof, but we do come to take care of our followers when we really need to.”
Chaplin: “I have some of that rusting myself! Mama thinks it’s related to when I was on prednisone for a little while due to an IBD flare-up, but if it doesn’t clear up, we might be trying some of those taurine or tyrosine supplements!”
Aww Chaplin, I’m sorry you’ve had tummy problems. Prednisone can be brilliant so many things so it’s a shame that like all meds, it can come with costs. I’d never heard of it potentially causing rusting though, so I do hope it clears up or that some extra taurine/tyrosine will help. Then again, having a super shiny gorgeous black and white coat will only grow feline heads even larger than they already are, strutting around the house like John Travolta πΊ
That’s awful that you had to cancel so close to the surgery, after all that time preparing and psyching up for it. It’s no easy thing getting your mind ready for a major procedure like that. I hope that you can get it done in the future, and that it provides the benefits that it should!
What a blow to have your surgery canceled after all that prep! I do hope you are better soon, and that you move forward in the way that is right and healthy for you.
Take care, Caz!
I cannnot believe all that prep and waiting for your surgery and then–it’s over! Yikes! When’s the reschedule? Five years away? I’m glad you had a victory with the cat.
You might not be far off with the reschedule! You have to laugh but it’s so not funny I’m struggling to see the point anymore. I’m glad to have had a victory with the cat, too. It’s hard to believe I never used to really like cats, now I’m the one following him around trying to get him to spend time with me π I hope you’re keeping as well as possible, Jacqui! xx
Oh Caz, nothing ever seems to go smoothly, does it? We feel so guilty when we have to cancel medical appointments, especially surgeries, but it’s not by choice. It’s out of your control, so don’t beat yourself up about that.
I hope the antibiotics are helping so you can move forward from this and get rescheduled (if you want it rescheduled).
Animals do sense things and can be quite comforting, can’t they?
Your tree is lovely. Nobody sees the back of the tree, so it’s perfect.
Take care of yourself. I really hope you feel better soon.
I’m so sorry for all the anxiety and frustration your cancelled surgery brought. My heart hurts for you. I hope some measure of peace and feeling better comes soon for you. I appreciate, too, your reminder to your readers to rest and take care of ourselves. I’ve been thinking of how lucky I’ve been (as a teacher, I basically work in a petri dish of germs) to not get sick yet this winter but I don’t know that the pace of my life of late (with my end of term grading, stuff with family and friends, running all over to shop, etc.) has been conducive to keeping that going. Then I found myself reading your piece and I see it as a little sign from the universe that I should be doing exactly as you advise! So thank you :).
Also, YAY for being all done with your Christmas shopping and wrapping! I am *almost* there myself. I’ve one more errant gift to track down (having an idea for said gift will help XD) and then I can enjoy the rest of my December basking in the festive spirit and letting my excitement to give the gifts I got grow.
Thank you for your thoughtful comment, thatβs really kind of you! Iβm glad you read the reminder to look after yourself because too often I think people get caught up in the busy-ness of life and either donβt realise it until itβs too late, or feel they canβt do anything about it. I hope you can find a way to ease up on things a little and take breaks when you can. I hope you get through the entirety of winter and beyond without picking up any bugs!
Well done on being early getting your Christmas shopping underway and I hope you picked up the errant present okay. As the years go by, I find it harder to come up with gift inspiration but I always enjoy getting things for my mum at least, who is a bit easier to buy for. Iβm just not really feeling Christmassy yet, even though itβs now under a week away. Maybe I need to go into town and get fed up how packed out the shops are, that’s pretty much a tradition I missed this year doing things early! Are you feeling any festive vibes? I hope youβre now on leave from work for the holidays and that you enjoy the run-up to Christmas with less stress and busy-ness! π x
Beautiful write. I am in the process of decorating my Christmas tree π when your like reached me by notification on my iPhone. I keep it by my side always coz my kids and grandkids whatβs app me β pour un oui ou pour un nonβ. I read your post under the mistletoe. Keep well. Stay safe. I havenβt wrapped the gifts yet. I wish you a Merry Xmas π in advance just in case.
Aww it’s nice your kids & grandkids WhatsApp you. In lieu of getting many letters these days, it’s a small joy to get those dings on your phone for new messages. I hope you get your gifts wrapped okay and can enjoy the festive season! π x
Thank you, my friend. Enjoy the festive season too. Stay safe.ππβοΈβοΈ
I feel so bad that your surgery was canceled! But, please get well soon. Love and hugs from the USA.
so sorry you’ve been sick Cas… maybe a blessing i’m hoping and you feel better. Love your cute cat and these yummy cocktails. I’m so jel, jel you’ve even wrapped some packages! β€οΈ good for you!
Hi Caz, sorry to hear about your surgery being cancelled, and I do hope you get over the infection soon. We’ve had similar stress with kids during the past few weeks as my friends and I tried to decide if our children had a cold or the dreaded Strep A virus. Fortunately they all seem to be getting over it now, although my poor daughter has struggled for the past two weeks. Anyway, we are all excited for Christmas now, ho ho ho!
I’m sorry about your kids, what a miserable time of things, eh. Are they doing okay now..? I imagine it must be very stressful and worrying for a lot of parents this year with things going around and the fear of Strep A added in. I hope everyone is well now to enjoy the festive holidays and make the most of Christmas! π x
I sure hope you feel better and can have your surgery! Praying for you!
Your tree looks beautiful!
Oh goodness! What an ordeal. So sorry Caz, wishing you a speedy recovery and a new op date. In the meantime, please take care & snuggle up to feline friends x
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ugh – so sorry about the setback. I know it’s trite to say, but who knows — maybe it’s for the best? somewhere I read that surgeries go best early in the day & early in week, when most of the experienced staff is there, bright & bushy tailed — maybe January the better people will be working?
I much enjoy seeing how others decorate — but I loathe doing it myself simply because I find it depressing to take down, worse to leave up past xmas day…
Beautiful tree and sorry for all the drama you’ve had to go through and still face. Please take your own advice and look after yourself π The festive drinks look cute. Just take each decision as it comes up. (((Social distanced hugs coming your way)))
Caz, my heart goes out to you more than you know. I pray the rest of December treats you kindly and you experience joy, peace, and some much-needed rest — with the adorable Virgil spoiling you in bed, of course! I loved that story you shared of him. Cats are unique and your boy is extra unique, lol! He’s impossible not to love and is the perfect boy for a mama who loves a little sarcasm here & there! π They really do know when you need them though; being energetic beings, they just know what others miss. In their own special way, they will be there to say I love you, every time. I’m grateful he made you feel special because you are. I’m also glad you found the perfect food for him too. Cats who have (or are) black can rust from being in the sun, but you’re right, it can also be nutrient related, especially in senior kitties. So thankful he’s feeling and looking better; I know you’re happy!
Sorry to hear about the original tree you loved being taken back. Sheesh. Moving the sofa would have been no big deal, but…we have to pick our battles sometimes, right? The tree in the photo is still pretty though. Does Virgil mess with it?
If you choose to schedule the surgery again someday, I pray it goes well for you. And, I pray you will have the wisdom to know exactly what to do moving forward. I’m still believing your best days are ahead of you. You’re an amazing person, Caz. So very loved by so many, including me. β€οΈ
Thinking of you & praying you are well today. I’m here if you need me! Oh! And don’t you dare worry about ‘being behind.’ I think most of us are these days, ha ha! We can only do what we can do. Priorities matter.
Oh, Caz, I’m so sorry you’re poorly again and had to have your important surgery cancelled. How disappointing for you, especially after getting all packed and prepared for the hospital. Hopefully, you won’t have to wait too long for a replacement date for your surgery. I really feel for you. I’ve been waiting for a rheumatology appointment for a year and finally got a date for 11th January. Last week, I got a letter informing me that my appointment had been cancelled due to unforeseen circumstances. So annoying.
Well done, you, for being so ready for Christmas. You’re way, way ahead of me. I still have things to buy my children and grandchildren and often end up not wrapping them until late on Christmas Eve. Talk about leaving things until the last minute! Your tree looks lovely even though it wasn’t your first choice. I haven’t really got room for a tree, and I imagine, if I did, Peanut would be scaling it and perching on the top of the tree, pretending to be the fairy or angel! I’m so glad Virgil has been paying you extra affection lately. Cats have such a good sense of our moods and feelings. Peanut has started sleeping on my bed all night now that the freezing weather is here. I love it when she does that – I always sleep better with her on my bed. I’m glad you solved the rusting problem in Virgil’s fur. Peanut will only eat the most expensive food, too, fussy little madam. I don’t mind, really; she’s worth every penny. I think she eats better than I do sometimes!
I hope you get well very soon and that you and your family have a wonderful Christmas together. Much love to you, Caz. Big hugs Xxx πππ
Oh well, it really was bad timing for this chest infection,.. This shows we cannot always go ahead with our major plans. I just hope you recover well from your chest infection and you can go ahead with the surgery in the near future. Thank you for your wonderful reminder and the positive thing is that you wonΒ΄t suffer from any last minute stress doing your Christmas shopping and prepatrations, Love your Christmas tree!
This made me want to cry C. You’ve been waiting for so long….. I’m sending so much love
Thank you for sharing!!.. sorry that you are not feeling the best but glad the holiday spirit is present and helping you get through the day… perhaps with all the illnesses present and the holidays, it might be best to wait until the new year, if possible, to have your surgery.. in either case hope you get well soon…. π
Hope you have the mostest wonderfulest holiday and Christmas ever, your path is paved with love and happiness and until we meet again..
May your day be touched
by a bit of Irish luck,
Brightened by a song
in your heart,
And warmed by the smiles
of people you love.
(Irish Saying)
So sorry to hear about the setback, Caz! I hope you’re feeling better now. Sending lots of warm, healthy, and healing thoughts!!
I hope you feel better soon. This flu is going around the whole world it seems. No fun being sick. Rest and relaxation surrounded by peace and quiet.
Wish you a prompt recovery and happy holidays. Take good care of yourself. Stay safe. Much love.Anita.ππ€ΆπβοΈβοΈ
Here’s hoping you’re feeling a little better; at least. What a disappointment re the surgery! But, everything for a reason; I always say when I can’t see a reason!!! Eventually, the reason shows itself. By then, though, you’re over it as life goes on to the next battle/event/ceremony or celebration.
I luv your little pussy-cat. Isn’t it normal for all sweet little things to prefer the cardboard box and not the toy; the piece of grass and not the expensive doodad.? I couldn’t help but laugh…
As you’ve said – one bright spot is; you’re ahead with the Chrissy planning!
Merry Christmas, Caz, to you and yours.
Lots o’ Love
xoxoxo
Hello Caz Thank You for your wishes for Christmas and liking my post. Maybe you were not meant to have the surgery if you have not felt very ill without it. I am always praying for better health. And send Healing Energies your way. Please have Hope and Be Strong. Lots of Loving Hugs <3 <3 <3