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Mini Me Update January 2022

by InvisiblyMe

I just thought I’d do a mini me update for January 2022 primarily to let you know about a few changes to the blog as I’d love any feedback or criticism. If you don’t want to read the full post then I can sum up the key points quickly here : I went to London & spotted zero celebrities, the news is shit, writing 2022 looks weird, and the Invisibly Me blog has a new host provider, theme and header.

News Overload

I know there are many of us here who got frustrated and overwhelmed with the news some time ago. Reducing your news intake and taking regular breaks is a good idea, but it still feels like certain things keep getting through.

Everywhere you turn at the moment in the UK, it seems to be about select things, like the unvaccinated Novak Djokovic and the epic saga that was him going to Australia without the correct preparations. This is the guy who got tested for Covid and instead of isolating until the result as direct, spent time around children. After his positive result, he went and did an interview knowing full well he was infected. Nonetheless, the public was in uproar and updates kept coming in thick and fast until, finally, Australia kicked him out. Another tennis star decided to simply not to go Australia because of the pandemic, putting rules and protections for others ahead of himself and his career. Seems like he made the most logical call compared to Novak’s fate. Do we really care, or care enough to hear about it at every possible opportunity? Doubtful. I’d rather have a pigeon peck my eyes out.

We’ve probably all heard about the Partygate scandals, with the UK government holding numerous parties during the periods of lockdown where meeting with others was prohibited. Of course these rules only applied to the plebs (the public), as well as the Queen during the funeral for her beloved husband, and not to the politicians. It’s the hypocrisy that has rightly angered so many. And of course the belief is that no investigation will make the slightest difference so they’ll get away unscathed for their shenanigans and the blood on their hands.

From the negative stories of violence and political scandal, to stories of natural disasters and continual price hikes, it all gets to be too much. Then there’s Covid. One we’ve not escaped for the last couple of years, no matter how much we’d like to.

What gets me is that last year, prior to Omicron, there was a leak about a plan for the UK government to sweep Covid under the rug in the first half of 2022. Toeing the line are particular media outlets like the Daily Mail, who set an agenda a little while ago to promote the end of the pandemic. If people don’t like the truth of the current story, they just reshape it to fit their needs and preferences.

It appears that cases are reducing in the UK, which of course they are when testing rules change: testing reduces, PCR tests are not required for confirmation, and many individuals won’t bother reporting results from lateral flow tests, which also come with a higher rate of false negatives. Hospitalisations and deaths have increased, higher than prior to Omicron, and yet those stats are conveniently being overlooked. All the while there is comparison from one day to the next, or one week to the next, when data has not been dutifully or correctly updated each day for this to be possible.

It seems the government will likely push ahead with taking away remaining restrictions and safety precautions beginning this month, likely because of backbencher revolt, the need to placate the factions of public wanting to get back to their lives, and because too many staff members in all industries (including, of course, the NHS) are absent because of Covid.

I want to be free and get back to live as we knew it before 2019/2020. But I want to be free from Covid, not free from restrictions per se. It’s Covid we should be fighting against, not fighting against each other or the measures like social distancing and masks that are there to keep people a little safer. I do worry that the chronically ill, the elderly, the immunocompromised and all those just not wanting to risk catching Covid or passing it to loved ones will be lost among the crush and be forgotten about, left to fend for themselves yet again.

A person holding a mug and a newspaper, dressed in a yellow hazmat suit to suggest reading the news during Covid19.

Anger against our governments and those in power elsewhere is palpable. It builds and grows and takes on a life of its own. That will apply to various countries in all different positions. The decisions and circumstances around the economy, healthcare, social inequality, illegal immigration, jobs, environment, benefits, and so on may be illogical and beyond infuriating and frustrating.

But all we can do is focus on the ways in which we can keep ourselves and those around us safe, and the ways we can moderate our news intake to prevent our brains short-circuiting. There’s a risk that the overwhelm, fear and rage can build up and bubble over, so do try to talk things through with someone if you find it helpful to vent.

Happy New Year 2021 2022!

Is anyone else having problems remembering it’s now 2022 and instead still putting 2021 on everything? January 2022 just doesn’t seem right.

I just wanted to wish you all the very best for a Happy New Year! I hope 2022 is kind to you & full of small joys ????

A black and white vintage style cartoon of a woman with her hair tied up, holding a cup of tea and smiling. The text reads "new year, same me, still fabulous".

London Travels

I had to go to London (UK) last Wednesday for two medical-related appointments. The first was to see a specialist for my legal case, and the second was to UCLH to see the second surgeon who would be required for my major surgery, who I’d never seen or spoken to previously.

All in, travel time was about 6hrs that day. Now, I used to go to London semi-regularly before my health went down the pan in 2015, but always with someone else. We could spend the whole day walking miles, going to different places all over the city, having an awesome time. Now I want to fork my eyes out after the 2hr train trip there because the pain is unbelievable and I feel like hell. It’s like being a completely different person. Given the nerve damage from screws in my back, my back and hips are painfully debilitating so I’ve not sat in a chair normally for the last six years. I need my legs out in front of me at the very least. I tried to distract myself as much as possible, fidget and stand up occasionally but by the time I got there, walking off the train was problematic.

It was challenging enough being careful with Covid without everything else health-wise. It feels selfish and pathetic of me to moan about the day being difficult or how I feel like hell at the best of times, and yet this is what so many people with chronic illness or pain conditions go through. The simple is difficult, and the difficult is almost impossible, yet others may not see it at all.

Appointment 1

The first appointment was based in a fancy part of London for private practices and involved me talking about my health symptoms to the specialist, who also undertook a physical. I was constantly cut off when talking, and the physical was disturbingly fast and brash.

He offered to do a test for Sjogrens to check my dry eyes right at the end of the appointment. I’d not had the test before but it involves putting some kind of filter material into the lower lid and closing your eyes for five minutes to see how much of the paper is damp. My eyes were very sore, but I assumed that was normal. As soon as it was over, I said my goodbyes and hobbled to the toilet. Sanitized my hands for the 20th time that morning. Looked at my eyes in the mirror…

…And found parts of the filter material had detached and wedged under my eyeball and jammed into the lower lid. No wonder it was literally eye-wateringly sore.

Trying to get said pieces of what felt like cardboard out was excruciatingly difficult. Once un-wedged, the big piece adhered to my eyeball and I had to try very carefully to pick it off, all the time panicking it was going to disappear somewhere it really shouldn’t.

There was then a period of hours to kill before UCLH. I went to Regent’s Park to sit and eat what I’d brought with me, stretch my legs out, and generally test my body’s resistance to getting hypothermia in what felt like morgue cooler temperatures.

Appointment 2

The appointment with my surgeon was discombobulating. It was the first time seeing or speaking to him, as earlier appointments were with surgeon number one as it’s a big surgery requiring them both. He called my original surgeon in 2015 a “fucker”, my solicitors “fuckers”, and threw in some “motherfuckers” along the way. I can appreciate a guy who swears almost as much as I do, I just wish he would have worn his damn mask while doing it.

The upshot of the appointment was not pleasant. I’ve been waiting for this – what he describes as very difficult, very major – surgery for a number of long years now. It seems it is all rather too little too late. As much as I had previously tried to convince myself that there was a little chance this might be the case so I wouldn’t be too devastated, that convincing never really reached my brain.

To make matters worse, this surgeon honestly seemed like he could not have cared less about me. That’s not me being too sensitive or taking his approach personally. He really just did not care. So that didn’t feel great either when my face started to fold and I couldn’t stop myself from crying, and he started talking about his next patient.

After all these years of waiting, it now doesn’t sound like there would be much or any possible benefit to the surgery, while the risks have instead just grown. I still have an appointment with the second surgeon who may say there could be some reason for trying, but it wouldn’t be enough even if she did. It feels very much like the end of the road.

The realisation that there’s probably no chance of some improvement is like a punch in the face because I know I can’t keep going as I am, not for the long term. People deal with far, far worse than I, but I am perhaps not as strong as some may think. It should now feel like some kind of relief, but I’m not there yet and I have to primarily consider my parents in my decisions. I’ve not got around to processing it yet or figuring out where to go from here.

All I do know is that this should certainly be a turning point to stress a lot less and give numerous less fucks. I need to start filling the fuck it bucket. I’d really just like a break and some time to slow down. Covid disappearing would be quite nice, too. But it’s all good, I have much to be thankful for that balances out some of the frustration I feel.

I left the swearing surgeon, locked myself in the toilet, (sanitized my hands again), and cried like a baby for 20 minutes. I realised I hadn’t cried in some time so it was a snotty mess affair. I didn’t really process anything, it was just realisation hitting me full frontal while I started thinking morbidly. I’ve not yet told my parents about the outcome of this appointment and I’m not sure why I’m writing this here now, but I’m sure it’ll feel so self-centred that I’ll want to delete it as soon as I’ve published it. I imagine I’m not the only blogger to feel this sort of indecision and awkwardness over open disclosure.

Anyway, I got the tube to get back to the station, which was as packed as ever with people crammed in.

So there we go. I went to London and I didn’t even buy a bloody Heat magazine! (Please tell me someone here gets that reference?!)

Chocolate Kindness

The main positive to the day? After the first appointment, I went to Starbucks and got a hot chocolate, the first time in over two years because of the pandemic. It staved off the frostbite and it was a heavenly kind of delicious. I had a lovely lady serve me, who seemed a bit concerned if I was okay (admittedly I probably looked a little worse for wear at this point).

She appeared to undercharge me for the drink, but nonetheless added sauce and lots of sprinkles on top. Thank you, barista with the cool dreads, your kindness meant the world.

An Apology

I just wanted to sneak in a little apology. I feel like a broken record for saying things have been full-on and I’m very far behind on everything, but it’s true and has been worse than usual of late. At least when I no longer have to antibacterial clean everything because of Covid, I’ll probably have an extra 12hrs to spare each week. There’s no excuse and we all have stuff to deal with. I just wanted to say that I’m sorry to those I keep in contact with online for often taking a while to get back to you; I want you to know that I appreciate you and every message more than you know. Ditto to not being on top of blogs right now. Ironically, pre-illness I was always the one that was quick to reply to all messages and get everything else in my life done in good time. My tardiness or forgetfulness is not a reflection of how much I care.

Blog Breakdown & Refresh

After a lot of problems in recent times with my old host, I decided to bite the bullet and leave early. Thanks to my fellow blogging friend Liz, I signed up with Lyrical Host and they’ve moved me onto their service. The host package cost was far out of my budget, especially considering I also had to buy a theme prior to the migration. However, they’ve been very responsive and kind since the get go, and that’s priceless.

You’ll notice that the dates have also been removed from the permalinks (URL of blog posts), but redirects have been set up to enable old links to still work.

If you’re interested in a new host, you can check out Lyrical Host here & use the discount code INVISME10 for 10% off any package.

Just a note to anyone with an old Pipdig theme – I bought mine a couple of years ago and had never heard about any problems. Apparently, what I wasn’t privy of is that there’s a Pipdig scandal, with the company having illegal and dangerous inserts into their themes and plugins. I didn’t have a clue but it could explain why I had to disable the plugin some time ago because it kept wrecking my site and why I’ve had endless issues with the theme. I’ve written to Pipdig but unsurprisingly haven’t heard back. I’m surprised they’re still running. If you have a Pipdig theme, please do consider speaking with them or do your research online in case their stuff puts your site and others at risk. I’ve since moved to a pricey but decent theme from ThemeForest.

I’ve not had much time to set things up with the new theme, or go through the various problems caused by the migration. The site does seem on the slow side, so if you notice that too then please do let me know. Thankfully I did manage to draft up a new header and I have an odd post ready to publish soon because I’ve not had time for writing more.

The new InvisiblyMe header which is in black and red against a white background. There are two ECG lines either side of the words Invisibly Me, then underneath it says "living a visible life whatever your health".

It wasn’t the best timing, with legal stuff, health stuff, home jazz and London at the same time as the blog breakdown, but I’m glad it’s all done because I had seriously considered quitting the blog altogether. Maybe I should have. But it feels like this is the only thing I have and the only tiny accomplishment from these last several years, so to give it up now would feel like I’m giving up more than just the blog. I love the community too much leave it yet anyway.

The theme still needs some tweaking but I’d love to hear what you think. I’m finding it hard to get it anywhere close to what I’d actually like. Do you like it or do you hate it? Is there anything you would like to see improved? How’s the header? Can you read it okay and navigate it easily enough? Please do let me know.

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How have you all been this last week or two? I hope you’re keeping as warm & well as possible. Take good care of yourselves.

Caz  ♥

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65 comments

Ashley L. Peterson January 17, 2022 - 5:15 pm

What a clusterfuck. The whole carrying on with living thing isn’t such a pleasant prospect when there’s an unstoppable downward trajectory.

Your “like” button isn’t loading. I’ve had that issue before when I’ve set up lazy loading of iframes in an optimization plugin I was using.

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InvisiblyMe January 20, 2022 - 4:14 pm

Yeah, I’m pretty much seeing it like that too with unstoppable downward trajectory. I’m just really tired. I probably shouldn’t have even written this post. A little too much honesty maybe, most people don’t like it!

Thanks for letting me know about the “like” button. There were significant issues with painfully slow speeds when the site was migrated over to the new host. It seems to be picking up, but it’s still rather hit and miss. Lazy loading isn’t on so it shouldn’t be that, but I did check the optimisation settings after you mentioned it. All such buttons load on my laptop on Chrome, but not on iPad. Bloody technology…

I hope the furballs are keeping you good company this week, Ashley. xx

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Matt The Happy Human January 17, 2022 - 5:30 pm

“Reducing your news intake and taking regular breaks is a good idea”.

Amen to that. I think the off switch is the most powerful tool that we possess.

-Matt The Happy Human ????

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InvisiblyMe January 22, 2022 - 2:28 pm

It’s certainly a tool many of us probably need to make more use of, especially lately. We can be hit from every angle with information and news, so turning off sometimes isn’t a bad idea at all ???? Thanks for the comment, Matt – I hope you have a great weekend!

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Despite Pain January 17, 2022 - 5:48 pm

Oh, Caz, if I could give you a hug, I would.

Those appointments sounded pretty nasty. (That dry eye test with the paper stuck to your eye made me squirm! I’ve had the test, but the paper’s never stuck. Ouch!!) It will take time to process everything you’ve been told and I really hope you can find a way forward. You are the least self-centred person I know. Any time you need to chat, you know where to find me.

And no apologies necessary about blogging, commenting or messaging people. You are a super human, but you’re not superhuman. Take your time, do what you can when you can but stop putting pressure on yourself to do more. Give yourself a break.

Oh, that swearing maskless doctor! I had a GP who once swore while talking to me. Kind of slipped out while she was talking about the…wait for it….Tory government! She’s no longer in my practice but I imagine she’ll have been swearing a lot lately. The shenanigans have been unbelievable. Actually, no, with Boris at the helm, they’re totally believable.

I’m glad you found a little kindness in Starbucks. A little kindness goes a long way, doesn’t it? The Heat magazine – I have no idea.

Sending a virtual hug your way. Take care, Caz.
Liz x

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InvisiblyMe January 22, 2022 - 2:41 pm

Aw thank you very much for your kindness, Liz, I really appreciate it. I don’t know what happened with the material for the eye test, but it felt like cardboard when I got the bits out. The one was quite big, that’s what caused the problem when it got wedged then stuck to my eyeball. I really, really hate eyes but the sheer panic made me desperate to get it out ????

The Heat magazine thing refers to an advert from probably 15 odd years ago. It was a woman in the car with her kids in the back as she sung “We’re going to London, to buy a Heat magazine”. It was so basic but it just stuck (and got played on repeat non-stop) so it’s one of the lamest yet most remembered advert expressions ever.

I love that you had a doctor who swore while discussing the Tory government. How’d that topic of conversation come about? Or was it “I’m afraid the lights and heating got cut off because of budget cuts. Damn those Tories. I’ll use the LED light on my penknife to find your vein, but I can’t keep my needle hand from shaking because it’s too cold…” Something like that? ????

Sending hugs right back at’cha lovely. Stay warm & have a restful weekend ???? xx

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Liz January 17, 2022 - 6:31 pm

Hi Caz. Sorry to hear about your appointments. I would have cried with you, knowing me, feeling the disappointment with you.
That hot chocolate sounded comforting and lovely.

First impressions, it wouldn’t have dawned on me that you moved hosts, had you not said.

It loads quick your site. Only exception is the row where the like button is. Still waiting to load as I type this.

I have announced on Twitter that I am taking a break from there. How long, I don’t know. I will be back when no longer deputy. So any messages, please email at my blog email, as I am now logged out since that announcement.
I could be gone months.
I am still blogging. But I won’t be airing any new posts on Twitter. So anyone from Twitter will need to keep following my blog, if they want to see new updates.
I have just aired a post today of what you jave mentioned in this blog post. I thoughtI would rant it out on my blog.

Take care Caz xx

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InvisiblyMe January 22, 2022 - 10:59 pm

Aw thank you, Liz, I appreciate that. I wasn’t sure whether to write any of this or not. The host change happened pretty quickly, it wasn’t intended until I did it really and then had to quickly find a new theme in the middle of everything else going on. Unfortunately I’m still having a lot of problems with new posts not showing on the homepage or the WP Reader for several hours and it’s really annoying. And the missing “like” button, which HostPresto also have no answers for. Sorry about that, I’m still trying with them to get things resolved, it’s just not getting me anywhere.

I’ll miss you on Twitter so it’ll be good to have you back when you want to and feel ready to. I think a break is a good idea, especially with the news lately we see talked about so much on there on top of what you’re dealing with.

Hang in there, Liz. I can only imagine what an utter nightmare this whole process has been for you and how difficult they’re now making it to step down as deputy, but you’ll get there. It’ll be worth it in the end and I’ll keep my fingers crossed things go a little more smoothly from here on out. Sending hugs ???? xxxx

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Liz January 23, 2022 - 9:44 am

Thanks Caz. It certainly is a nightmare. I feel the whole deputyship is more aimed at professionals. Not someone like myself.

I hope you get what you need sorted for your blog, but from my own perspective, its not affecting my reading of your blog.
I don’t know if this comment is going to be repeated or not. I tried to reply back via the Wordpress dashboard and I couldn’t. It seamt that way anyway, as my comment was still there ready to reply, still after hitting the reply button. X

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Liz January 23, 2022 - 9:46 am

I had to come directly to your blog to leave my last comment, I meant to add to that comment. X

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InvisiblyMe January 25, 2022 - 4:32 pm

The “Deputyship Debacle” is so inappropriate on every level when you think it’s often friends, family & other loved ones taking it on, or having to remove themselves from it. I see why they make some things ridiculously difficult, like claiming benefits, so as to put people off doing it. But deputyship? It’s ludicrous. I just hope that at the end of it, when it’s transferred back and done, you’ll have some weight and stress lift from your shoulders. I just hope the end is in sight for all the paperwork.

Thank you for the feedback on the blog, I really appreciate that. It was painfully slow when I started with the new host, and that has mostly improved. The “like” button isn’t loading for a lot of people (doesn’t load if I view the site on my phone either). There have been numerous errors on the dashboard that have prevented me from doing anything at all at times. And when I publish a new post, it takes several hours to appear on the reader and it took over 24hrs to appear on the website’s homepage. I feel like maybe I made a mistake going to a new host but hopefully they’ll figure out what the problems are soon… It’s all pretty non-important in the grand scheme of things but it’s just more hassle and stress, you know? Nothing is going smoothly lately, so many problems just keep happening everywhere I turn. I can see why some animals go into hibernation!

Stay warm & as well as possible, Liz ???? xx

Liz January 25, 2022 - 7:00 pm

Hopefully it will be sorted for you, your site.

Yes, the deputyship crap, its not helpful for the likes of me. More suited for professionals.
I was hoping for a response back today, from those I have to answer to. But I haven’t. They are not obliged in such a short time, but based on past, they are very quick. I am hoping for an answer soon, cos I don’t want this dragging on any longer.

Masha January 17, 2022 - 6:41 pm

Best of luck Caz with your new home here. I wanted to leave a ‘like’ but I couldn’t it says loading and stays at that. I do like the theme and your header and I’m sure you’ll find your way to tweeking it to the way you want it to look and it’ll be perfect. xo

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InvisiblyMe January 27, 2022 - 4:42 pm

Thank you, Masha ???? There seems to be a lot of folks having problems with the “like” button not loading. I was hoping that might be fixed now but I’m not sure. There have been numerous technical hitches since migrating to new a new host unfortunately so it’s taking some time just to sort the basics. Technology, eh! xx

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Masha January 27, 2022 - 5:03 pm

I had no problem with the like button today, so hopefully it’s fixed. 🙂

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Sandee January 17, 2022 - 10:45 pm

You like button doesn’t work. Oh wait everyone is telling you that.

Yes the public has one set of rules and the elites can do whatever they want. I’m sick of all the elites that tell us what to do and they do the opposite.

I will always give you a hug no matter if you’re having a great day or a not so great day.

Have a fabulous day and week, Caz. Big hug. ♥

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InvisiblyMe January 27, 2022 - 4:46 pm

Yes, a lot of people have found the “like” button to not load. I was hoping that might be fixed now but I’m not sure. Does it load for you now? Migrating to a new host has led to a lot of technical problems so ironing these out is taking a veeeeery long time. You’re right about the elite doing whatever they want. It’s coming to a head here in the UK now with current events. The public worldwide are more knowledgable of what’s really happening thanks to the Internet, news and mass media. We don’t want to put up with the double standards anymore.

Sending hugs right back at’cha, Sandee – Have yourself a lovely Thursday! ???? xxxx

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Michele Anderson January 18, 2022 - 12:24 am

Here’s to a better and brighter year Caz and for normal to rain in. And here’s to a year of good health for you always. And yes, the “Like” button isn’t working for me too. xo

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InvisiblyMe January 27, 2022 - 5:03 pm

I’m sorry the “like” button didn’t work for you either. Seems like that’s happened for most folks. I’m hoping that’s fixed now but there have been so many problems since moving over to the new host. Does it load for you now, Michele?

Thank you for your kind wishes – I hope 2022 is kind to you also. And yes, let’s have “normality” come back, fingers crossed!! xx

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Michele Anderson January 18, 2022 - 12:26 am

Caz I left a comment but it doesn’t show.

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Looking for the Light January 18, 2022 - 1:05 am

Caz, I don’t understand why you had to change host, I’ve been with WP since 2005 and never went anywhere else. What don’t I understand. Tell me about your logo?

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InvisiblyMe January 28, 2022 - 3:53 pm

I think I replied to you about this on Twitter as to the reasons I moved ☺️ Granted, with all the problems during migration I did wonder if I should have given up blogging altogether but hopefully things are starting to finally be resolved. Sorry for being dense in not understanding your question about the header – what did you want to know? xx

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Cheryl, Gulf Coast Poet January 18, 2022 - 3:13 am

Caz, sorry to hear you are going through the tortures! Hang in there! We have been going through some issues with Robert’s upcoming cataract surgeries but finally have surgery scheduled. I may not be on the blog sometimes for a while.
You take good care of yourself! I wish you well! <3

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InvisiblyMe January 30, 2022 - 3:22 pm

Oh Cheryl, I’m sorry things haven’t been smooth with Robert’s surgeries but I’m glad it’s now scheduled. The first one of two, I assume. When is it? I just want to wish him all the very, very best. My mother is putting off cataract surgery for as long as possible, but I’ve spoken to a few people now who’ve had the surgery and all have said what an amazing difference it makes. I truly hope it goes as well as possible for him ???????? xxxx

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Cheryl, Gulf Coast Poet January 30, 2022 - 4:04 pm

Thank you, Caz. The first surgery is scheduled for 2/1 and the next a week later. My sister, like your mother, is also putting off cataract surgery. It is a routine and very successful procedure and I wish she would just do it! Robert is having chemical sensitivity issues with the eye drops they use to dilate his eyes. Earlier, he had two failed root canals on the same tooth, and it finally had to be extracted. The dental issues caused several months delay.Eye drops have been ordered from a compounding pharmacy, and we are hoping for the best. All the best for your mother. Take care of yourself! <3

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annieasksyou January 18, 2022 - 3:58 am

Hi, dear Caz—

So terribly sorry for all you’ve been going through. You were heroic for making it to London and home with all the difficulties and pain. The Med people sound horrific. I do hope you’ll be able to sort things out better with the previous surgeon.

Apart from the lazy like button others mentioned, the blog was clear. There were a few repeated parts, but they weren’t disruptive and were fine for emphasis.

Please be kind to yourself, rest up, and keep blogging for as long as you care to. You are much loved and needed here.

Annie xxx

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InvisiblyMe January 30, 2022 - 3:27 pm

I feel like I’m just whinging about London having been difficult, but these days even the smallest of things become very difficult, and the middle-sized ones can feel almost impossible. The outcome wasn’t the best, but I just feel so twisted up and indecisive on what to do next.

Thank you for your feedback on the new blog host & theme. I’m sorry you’ve found the “like” button to not load, it seems a lot have experienced that. Unfortunately there have been a lot of problems caused when migrating to the new host and they don’t seem very sure on how to fix things, but I’m hoping some issues are being ironed out now. Does the “like” button load for you now? I’m not sure what you mean by repeated parts – do you mean blog posts repeated on the slider and the list of posts underneath? If so, that’s something I felt was a bit naff too so it’s on my list to look to change the content in the slider.

Thank you for your kindness as always, Annie. I hope you’re having a relaxing weekend and that the week ahead treats you kindly my friend ???? xxxx

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Blogging_with_Bojana January 18, 2022 - 9:06 am

It turned out Novak wasn’t sinless after all, but to treat him like a criminal, to be held in a dirty detention center with two meals per day and no phone, to be given medical exception from the state of Victoria and then be tried in a court of law, to be kicked out after being declared public threat because he may foster anti-vaccination sentiment and civil unrest. To be now treated as an anti-vax icon, though he was never ever publically promoting the idea? I mean, c’mon. Why didn’t you say NO in the first place and spare us all? They weren’t defending their citizens; they just want to stay in power. That much is clear.

(Lots of hugs, dear. Btw, the page takes ages to load, the like button as well.)

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InvisiblyMe February 1, 2022 - 4:10 pm

The hoo-ha that followed Novak going to Australia was mind-boggling, wasn’t it? I don’t know the ins and outs, at least not any true account as we can only go by what we read in the news. But it did not require all this back and forth, courts of law and so on. It was incredibly dramatic for one person. I don’t get why some make him into an anti-vax icon either. Like you said, he hasn’t gone out promoting that. I didn’t like what he did with going to do interviews knowing full well he was infected, so that dropped any sympathy I had for what he was going through. It certainly highlighted the problems with travel, vaccines passports and such, doesn’t it? You’d like to think lessons will be learned, but I won’t hold my breath.

Thanks for the hugs, B. Right back at’cha! Sorry about the slow loading and the “like” button not working. There have been a lot of problems since migrating to the new host. I think some things are getting ironed out now but it’s a slow process. Hopefully the “like” button at least works now, fingers crossed! I hope you have a good week ahead lovely ???? xx

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Blogging_with_Bojana February 2, 2022 - 1:13 pm

True, I didn’t like it either. What was he thinking?!
And fingers crossed. Hugs.

(I couldn’t write you from WP btw, had to come over here.)

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InvisiblyMe February 2, 2022 - 4:01 pm

I’m sorry you couldn’t write through the Reader. You can make an initial comment to the post though, right? Maybe they just don’t allow replies to comments on there, I’m not sure. Technology, eh. xx

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Paula Bardell-Hedley January 18, 2022 - 10:01 am

What a time you’ve been having. Absolutely no need to apologise! ????

BTW, I completely agree with all your points about Partygate and the news in general. These politicians are such a disgrace! ????

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InvisiblyMe February 1, 2022 - 11:17 pm

A disgrace indeed. It seems the rot is deep & unlikely to be dealt with anytime soon. Too many have too much money and power to lose.

I hope the rest of the week treats you kindly, Paula. I think we need to turn off the news to get a break from getting irate with it all! xx

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SS January 18, 2022 - 1:34 pm

I just wanted to say good on you for sharing, that’s never easy. It’s probably only a tenth of what you’re going through and feeling but I sincerely hope, it helped somewhat to admit these things and not have it rattling around in your head. Take several dozen moments and deal with it, however you see fit. Sending you best wishes and I love the new look. It’s very clear and funky 🙂

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SS January 18, 2022 - 1:39 pm

I just wanted to say good on you for sharing, that’s never easy. It’s probably only a tenth of what you’re going through and feeling but I sincerely hope, it helped somewhat to admit these things and not have it rattling around in your head. Take several dozen moments and deal with it, however you see fit. Sending you best wishes and I love the new look. It’s very clear and funky 🙂

Edit. I don’t think my comment posted and don’t get me started on Doctors/Surgeons and how they lack empathy. Grrr. It’s like talking to a sheep.

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InvisiblyMe February 2, 2022 - 11:02 pm

Thank you so much for your kind comment, SS. I really appreciate it, more than you know ???? I’ve had a lot of problems with the blog caused through migration to a new host but hopefully some issues are finally being ironed out. I’m glad you like the new theme!

“It’s like talking to a sheep”. You put it so much more politely than I do in my head ???? It’s making me apoplectic lately. Too many instances of having to fight while being spoken to like an idiot or simply ignored.

I can’t quite believe it’s February already. I can’t keep up at all and I’m veeeery far behind, but I just wanted to wish you all the very best for this month. I hope it’s a good one for you. Take good care of yourself ???? xx

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Rachel January 18, 2022 - 1:48 pm

Your blog is looking good.
I’m so sorry for you seeing that dickhead of a surgeon. I genuinely wonder why some people go into health care.
I hope there is some sort of resolution coming your way. And, I’m pleased you’re not giving up blogging. Take care. ????

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InvisiblyMe February 6, 2022 - 10:19 am

Aw thank you very muchly, Rachel ???? I’m sure the surgeon I saw was very good at what he does, in a technical way. But bedside manner, talking to patients or caring about them? Not so much! It was all just really bizarre.

I hope you’re having a relaxing weekend lovely xx

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capost2k January 18, 2022 - 6:35 pm

Caz, my heart bleeds for you for the frustration with your doctors, especially idiots in London who swear as much as you do. However, a physician who “cared” could be forgiven for his inability to express himself without using vulgarity. But one who shows such lack of concern is not worth the paper his alleged medical degree is on, even if he knows how to use the Queen’s English.
I FIRED the doctor in Canada who was caring for my cancer-ridden mother-in-law because of her lack of care for Ma; the sisters (my wife and hers) were deeply appreciative. We then found her under the care of a very sensitive male doc, who made us feel that he was treating her like he would his own mother.
You remain in my daily prayers, even if Father does not seem to hear me; I just don’t understand Him sometimes, but I do trust Him. I hope someday you will, also.
❤️&????, c.a.

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InvisiblyMe February 6, 2022 - 10:25 am

Thank you for your comment. I’m glad you found a different doctor for your mother-in-law. A lack of care and compassion by a medical professional holding all the power and authority is more than a little worrying. It doesn’t sit well when it happens to yourself, but for it to be when such a professional is treating a loved one… I think that would burn a hole in your gut unless you do something about it.

I hope you have a wonderful week ahead, c.a ????

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capost2k January 18, 2022 - 6:50 pm

P.s.. Refer your readers to the LOVE ❤️ button under where the Like button does not seem to be working.

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The Oceanside Animals January 19, 2022 - 2:46 am

Charlee: “Aww, we’re very sorry to hear about your horrific trip to London and the not great news and uncaring attitude from the doctors.”
Chaplin: “Some of those human doctors could take a lesson in compassion from the doctors we cats and dogs see, I tell you what. I’ll give them all a hiss for you.”
Charlee: “I’ll give them a hiss too! But for you, Caz, only purrs.”
Lulu: “And also fluffy tail wags, from me!”

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InvisiblyMe February 6, 2022 - 10:27 am

And you only get “awwwws” from me, guys. Thank you very muchly! You know, my mother always says I’d be better off seeing a vet. Maybe she’s right ????

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James Viscosi January 19, 2022 - 3:01 am

I like the new look, and I especially like the new header. Excellent job on that!

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InvisiblyMe February 6, 2022 - 10:29 am

I’m really glad you like the new look, phew! I’m still not really happy with it all, but I’m one of those people who knows what they like when they see it, but can never seem to actually make something look they way they want. If that makes sense. The header was a rush job but if you think it’s okay then I might just leave it as is. Thanks! Hope you’re all having yourselves a good weekend ????

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Animalcouriers January 19, 2022 - 6:13 pm

Things sound tough. Keep strong. Love the update!

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InvisiblyMe February 7, 2022 - 5:33 pm

Thanks very muchly – I hope you’re doing as well as possible and that the week ahead is good for all those at Animal Couriers! ????

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Lucy January 21, 2022 - 9:20 am

Oh Caz, I’m so sorry to hear how badly your appointments in London went. I can relate to how frustrating it is being dismissed and having appointments rushed through. It’s so poor the way you were treated and I’m sorry that it hasn’t provided you with any hope or encouragement. I’m pleased the Starbucks waitress provided you with much needed kindness. Also, I’ve recently moved hosts to Lyrical too and like you have had major problems with my site. The migration took several days and people have been unable to access it and even when they can the pages take ages to load. I’ve just had one issue after another since switching and although they’re customer service is great, I wish I didn’t have to use it and be in contact with them so much! It’s slowly improving over time for me, although it’s still very up and down, and al they keep telling me is everything is loading well from their end which is worrying. I hope things improve for us soon. I could access your site and your blog post loaded really quickly 🙂 It’s so frustrating isn’t it when you put so much time and effort into your blog to then encounter these problems. I’ve definitely felt like giving up too. I’m always a message away if you need to talk. I hope you have some time to rest, relax and recharge. Take care. Sending lots of love your way. Lucy xx

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InvisiblyMe February 6, 2022 - 4:15 pm

Thank you so much for such a kind, thoughtful comment, Lucy ???? I’m sorry you can relate to such negative appointments. As for your migration to Lyrical, I’m so glad you messaged me on social media about it. In our chats, it seems we both have very similar problems. It’s reassuring to know it’s definitely not to do with us, our sites per se, our devices etc. The speed on mine has now improved, but at first it was painfully slow (I kept giving up trying to load it at all, it was ridiculous). The other problems still remain… Let’s hope we both get somewhere with them soon. Hang in there, Lucy. You’ve worked too hard for your blog to give up because of the migration problems. Sending hugs ???? xxxx

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Terri, Reclaiming Hope January 21, 2022 - 10:27 pm

Oh Caz, I’m so sorry your appointments went so horribly. I can’t think of a coherent comment at this moment because I’m so upset for you, but I’ll come back later. I just wanted to leave something to let you know I’m thinking of you. I wish I could give you a big hug right now…. Hang in there Sweetie.

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InvisiblyMe February 7, 2022 - 11:06 pm

That’s so kind of you, Terri, thank you ???? I think it all just got to me a bit too much, and being too busy and exhausted before even going didn’t help matters. It’s all good. Well no, it’s not, but alas we can only keep moving on and hope such experiences don’t scar us too much each time. Sending lots of love your way. xxxx

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Blanca January 22, 2022 - 7:42 pm

Hi Caz, just to let you know your site loads quickly, I didn´t have any problems to like and comment and I really like the new header and the new look of your blog.

I´m really sorry to hear your health appointments went so horribly bad, I just hope you get much more positive outcomes in your next appointments.

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InvisiblyMe February 7, 2022 - 11:07 pm

Hey Blanca, thank you very much for letting me know your feedback about the new blog look. When you commented, the speed issue had mostly been resolved thankfully (it was paaaaainfully slow at first, ridiculously so). Thanks lovely – I hope the week ahead treats you kindly ???? xx

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Lindsay January 23, 2022 - 5:57 am

Happy New Year, Caz! Sorry to hear your appointments didn’t go better. The dry eye paper thing sounds awful. I’m so sensitive when it comes to my eyes – I can’t imagine having to fish out paper that had separated. And a doctor that wasn’t wearing a mask??!! You’ve got to be kidding me. How is that allowed?

I like to treat myself after appointments and will often stop for a coffee or hot chocolate, too. After all the shit we go through at appointments, I feel I deserve it. It’s what keeps me going to my scheduled appointments, because I get a reward after.

I like the theme! It looks great and is working fine for me.

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InvisiblyMe February 7, 2022 - 11:19 pm

Yeah, eyes creep me out too! As for the surgeon not wearing a mask despite hospital regs enforcing all to wear them (and government rules), I don’t know. I wasn’t keen on that at all but I didn’t feel like I could say “excuse me, could you put your mask on please?” I think he’d have another F word for me on that one ????

I used to do that with appointments too, with treating myself or at least having something to do afterwards. That way, I’d just be thinking about that instead of the stress of getting there, arriving on time, the appt itself. But with Covid, I don’t do that anymore. Starbucks in London was a need, not just because I couldn’t stand up any longer but because of the greater risk of hypothermia! I’m glad you can use those little rewards to keep you going, too. It’s important, and you more than deserve it.

Thank you for the lovely comment, Linds, and I’m really glad you like the new blog theme! Xxxx

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trippingthroughtreacle January 24, 2022 - 8:01 pm

Oh Caz, I am so, so sorry about your horrendous appointments in London. I wish that I could have given you a hug (and sat next to you with my own hot chocolate!). I am not very good at finding the right words, but I really hope that your appointment with the other surgeon goes well – better than you predict. And don’t ever apologise for taking your time to read and/or reply – all of us understand, and I know that I am going through the same. We’ll be here no matter what. xxxx

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InvisiblyMe February 8, 2022 - 4:13 pm

Aww it would be lovely to go for a hot chocolate with you, Jen! Your comment in perfect and really made me smile, thank you very much. I really do appreciate your kindness and friendship. I’m sorry things have been so full-on for you too and I just hope you can apply the same brilliant advice to yourself with not worrying about the blog at the very least. Sending lots of love, hang in there ???? xx

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Christy B January 25, 2022 - 8:22 pm

Hi Caz, sending HUGE hugs your way and thanks for always updating here so we keep our connection. No need to apologize for being behind in blogging – We get it and understand xx Wow, your new format here and header look so professional, well done you!!!

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InvisiblyMe February 8, 2022 - 4:35 pm

Thank you muchly, Christy, I really appreciate that ???? And I’m really glad you like the new blog look! I hope you’re keeping as well as possible & having a good week so far lovely xx

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Ami January 25, 2022 - 11:59 pm

I really don’t know what to say Caz, other than send you a hug and cry with you. I know how fucking horrible it is feeling like you’re at the end of the road. Please, please let me know if there is anything I can do to help ease things Xx

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InvisiblyMe February 8, 2022 - 4:39 pm

I’m sorry you know what that end of the road thing feels like. It really does suck, and I hate that you’ve felt it ???? I really appreciate your friendship, Ami, and that is priceless. Nothing you can do other than keep being awesome, but I appreciate you asking. That works both ways, I’m always here if you want to chat or if I can help with anything. Give the bubba a cuddle from me. Sending hugs your way xxxxx

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Michelle January 26, 2022 - 2:53 am

Wow! You’ve been going through so much! I’d be in my bed under the blanket crying by now. Lol! Sending big hugs your way!! I love your new look, btw!! Everything looks great!

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InvisiblyMe February 8, 2022 - 4:56 pm

I think I could do with some time to breathe & just think about things, but there’s too much on so I can’t. And I suppose being busy when I’m functional enough to do anything keeps me distracted when they’re things I don’t want to think about. Go figure! Thank you for your lovely comment & I’m really glad you like the new blog look ???? xx

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SpookyMrsGreen February 1, 2022 - 11:04 am

Hi Caz, I like the new blog design, funky! Don’t give up on it, your posts mean something to a lot of people (myself included) and you make the chronic pain life a little less lonely for people like me.

I have also experienced uncaring doctors and came away from hospital in tears after an appointment in 2020. The doctor at that time wouldn’t even examine me, didn’t want to touch my face, and the whole thing was a complete waste of my time, his time, and NHS resources. Still, I soldiered on and eventually managed to see a doctor that could make a difference. Let’s see what happens this year x

PS. I felt your pain with the eye thing, ouch!

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InvisiblyMe February 8, 2022 - 5:00 pm

Aww Catherine, thank you so much ???? I really do mean that. I often feel like I do an awful job as a blogger, like the things I write don’t make any difference. I’m sorry you’ve come across such medical professionals, including a doc that wouldn’t even examine you. It’s totally obscure to have things like this happen; if doctors would listen, care and act in the first instance, they’d save a lot of gut ache for patients, time for doctors and money for the NHS. There’s a big lack of common sense in our healthcare sometimes, and sadly there are many individual professionals that are not helping matters or their patients. I’m very glad you found a doc that would help and I really do hope that things are brighter for you from here. ???? xx

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