New Year Life Hack : 6 Steps To Write Your 2020

It’s a new year. It’s a new decade.

But we’re the same people.

It’s less ‘new year, new me’, and more ‘new year, new perspective’ that we should perhaps be aiming for.

We can review 2019 and assess the changes we’d like to make so that 2020 can hopefully be a little brighter, but we don’t need to pick ourselves apart. A small shift in focus and perspective may be all we really need. There are many things out of our control when it comes to chronic illness, so we don’t need to make ourselves feel worse. The main thing is to take control of your life in the ways you are able to, and live it the way you see fit. We’re good enough as we are. We’re doing our best, and that’s good enough.

Here are 6 life hacks to help take off the pressure and write your own 2020 your way.

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Life Hack 1 : Step Back & Review 2019

What have been the highs and lows, the regrets and the achievements? Have you dealt with the emotional impact of health problems, loss, financial stresses, trauma, personal problems or life changes? A lot of the time, we push things down, put on a smile and keep going, but it’s important to acknowledge, accept and process the things we go through.

Please reach out if you need support, whether it’s a friend, loved one, an online support forum, Facebook group, the blogging community, a professional support service / charity, or your doctor. You don’t have to do this alone.

Life Hack 2 : Tidy Up

A clear up of your physical & mental space is important for starting afresh.

A tidy home is a tidy mind, or so they say. I do think there’s a degree of truth in this because when your living space is tidier and cleaner, you can feel a little more at peace. If it’s not not used, broken, unwanted or doesn’t fit, get rid of it, whether that’s selling on eBay, donating to charity, going in the bin or sending to recycling. Tackle parts of your home in small chunks so that you don’t overdo it and set aside small blocks of time (like 10 minutes here and there) or individual tasks (like sorting through one cupboard or one drawer, or going through one folder of paperwork) to make it more manageable.

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Give yourself some space and breathing room. Get a change of scenery. If you have anxiety, you’ll know how hard it is to quieten your brain, but getting things a little tidier up there, even if briefly, can give you the time you need to assess things, find perspective, feel inspired and work out what you want and how you feel. A little distraction can work for some, too, whether there’s a good book, a Netflix series or a walk in the park. Turn off electronics, step away from the to-do lists and get out of your own head for a while.

Life Hack 3 : Take Back Control – Focus On What You Can Do

I’ve posted about this before. You are more than the parts of your body, the parts of your brain, the things that perhaps don’t work so well. You are more than just the things you can’t do. When looking at 2020, don’t get overwhelmed by the things you’d like to do but can’t or the things you’d like to be different but have no control over.

What are the things you can do, however small? Adjust your perspective and your expectations and take a proper look at the ability, independence and control you do have. Think outside the box a little and work with what you’ve got.

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Similarly, we can often feel we have little control over our circumstances & health. We forget the small ways we can make changes. We forget we have more control than we may think: our ability to react, to prepare, to change our perspective. Don’t underestimate the power of perspective. That is under your control.

Embrace the uncertainty and the unknown. We’re all human. Most of us probably don’t have a clue what we’re doing, some just make it look like they do. Yes, we may have to adjust our expectations in line with our situations, our health, our finances and what’s realistic. Maybe we’re not where we’d hoped we’d be. So carve a new path, one that’s uniquely yours.

Life Hack 4 : Be The Author & Write Your 2020

Look at the different aspects of life and wellness in general. Picture it as an overlapping set of circles that represent the varied parts of life. Physical health, mental health, finances, relationships and connections with others, work, spiritual/religious/moral, self-care, sense of achievement, fun & enjoyment, creativity…

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Are there things you’d like to do differently, ways you’d like to change or areas of your life you’d like to adjust? Are there things you do that you could do differently to make your life a little easier or a little more enjoyable? Are there things you need help with? Things you have been putting off doing? Are there people you’d like to see, things you’d like to say, new things you’d like to try?

Redefine what’s important to you, not what you feel you ‘should’ be resolving to do. Take back a little control. You are the author of your own story, so write the next chapter of your life by designing your 2020 on your own terms.

Life Hack 5 – Do What’s Right For YOU

This is an important part to remember : Do what’s best for you. We may be continually trying to please others, or maybe we just put up with things that cause us harm to some degree because we don’t want to upset others. I’m not saying don’t try to make others happy, but don’t do it at your own expense. Make 2020 the year to prioritise your own needs.

Sometimes this can be a challenge in its own right to do what’s right for you, especially if you want to make others happy or are worried about rocking the boat and causing upset. Eventually, putting up with whatever it is will wear you down and cause more damage in the long run. It’s a lesson you learn the hard way and it’s time to do something about it, to realise you deserve better.

If something is hurting you, or if there are toxic people in your life, muster up that courage to change it. You have it, even if it’s a quiet whisper rather than a roar. This is self-care in practice by standing up for yourself and acknowledging that your own needs and happiness matter, even more so when the decision is a difficult one to make.

Life Hack 6 : Rekindle Hope

A new year comes with a lot of expectations. Get rid of those, put them to one side for now. This isn’t about making huge declarations or aiming for the stars, though there’s nothing wrong with either. But gather a little hope in your heart. If this year has been challenging, remember that you will have grown stronger, even if you don’t realise it. You’re tough enough to take on a new year. And the days that follow can be brighter, and those brighter days can be more frequent. Things change, we change, the world evolves. Embrace that and work with it.

What things make you smile? What are your blessings? What positivity or goodness is in your life? What silver linings can you see? What have you learned this year? How have you grown?

Seek inspiration, whether it’s in books or blogs or Pinterest or being around nature. Fill your mind and your heart with positive vibes. Find that spark and kindle it.


I want to wish you all a very happy New Year – I hope it’s a happier, healthier, brighter 2020 for all of you, for all of us. Have hope.

How do you like to kick off your New Year & make sure it gets off to the best start?

Caz  ♥



  1. December 31, 2019 / 4:06 pm

    I’m sure I speak for all your followers when I say, thank you so much for always being there, often through rough times. Your posts are not only beneficial to your readers but act as a focal point for so many people struggling with an invisible illness. What you have to say is important.

    I wish you a peaceful, healthy and contented 2020. Happy New Year, Caz! 🤗💕⭐🎆

  2. Svet
    December 31, 2019 / 4:10 pm

    Beautifully said and written. Happy New Year, dear Caz! Kisses, Svet

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  4. December 31, 2019 / 4:26 pm

    Happy New Year to you too Caz. Let’s hope it’s a good one for us all. Best wishes from Caz x

  5. Ashley
    December 31, 2019 / 5:10 pm

    I think the part about rekindling hope is so important. It’s easy to lose along the way, but we need to keep that fire burning.

  6. December 31, 2019 / 5:41 pm

    Beautifully said and written, Caz. Thank you for your perspective in a time when the world could use just a bit more positivity, a bit more hope. A very happy new year to you, and I’ll see you in the next one!

  7. Anjali
    December 31, 2019 / 6:58 pm

    Beautifully said dear, Happy New year dear Caz ❤🥂

  8. December 31, 2019 / 7:01 pm

    Thanks for all.your support this year Caz, and I hope 2020 is a kinder one to us all! xx

  9. Julie de Rohan
    December 31, 2019 / 7:32 pm

    Wishing you a wonderful New Year, Caz.

  10. Karen Figgitt
    December 31, 2019 / 8:26 pm

    Thankyou Caz for an enjoyable read and a positive piece of writing. In 2020 I look forward to meeting new people I don’t yet know, listening to their stories and sharing inspiration. 🤗

  11. December 31, 2019 / 8:34 pm

    Such good advice, Caz. Happy New Year!!!

  12. December 31, 2019 / 8:37 pm

    “Embrace the uncertainty and the unknown”… This is so important.
    Thanks for letting us be part of your life and educating us.
    I wish you a wonderful 2020!

  13. December 31, 2019 / 9:58 pm

    Great advice! I am hanging on to number 6 really hard… Happy New Year Caz! xoxo!

  14. January 1, 2020 / 6:22 am

    Happy new year to you Caz. Taking to heart the fabulous 6 steps in 2020.

  15. Megala
    January 1, 2020 / 9:31 am

    What an insightful post! Thanks so much for sharing. I like the idea of “BE THE AUTHOR & WRITE YOUR 2020”. 🙂
    Wish you a wonderful New Year filled with happiness, health & success!

  16. January 1, 2020 / 11:10 am

    Such an uplifting and positive post to point the way at the start of this new decade, Caz. Thank you 🙂 You remain an inspiration to many ❤️️🌟🤗

  17. January 1, 2020 / 11:47 am

    Lovely post to start the new year Caz. I agree that it shouldn’t be about changing who we are, but maybe looking at a different perspective.
    I wish you the very best and hope that 2019 will be kinder to you. You deserve it.

  18. January 1, 2020 / 3:22 pm

    Love this Caz! I would like to share it with Linda’s “weigh to be healthy “ Facebook group 😄 I am hoping WordPress lets me! Still having trouble on my computer, hopefully the phone app lets me do more!

    • January 1, 2020 / 6:57 pm

      Ooo I’d like to know which group you mean, I can find two on FB so I’m not sure which you mean (with the tech side of things, I imagine the only way to share to a group is to copy/paste the URL directly) … And I would be honoured if you’d like to share this, thank you 😊 xx

  19. January 1, 2020 / 3:30 pm

    This New Year I wish you, my friend, to have delightful little surprises, the sunshine of happiness, moonbeam of peace, and oodles of love.

  20. January 1, 2020 / 4:00 pm

    Happy new year. Great list of suggestions. I just bagged up a bunch of clothing for the Veterans. Good start!

  21. January 1, 2020 / 8:10 pm

    Caz, I couldn’t agree with you more on this, new me doesn’t cut it, what does that mean? But what we can do is have a new perspective which can shift our view of ourselves and our life. I like to do a review of the year, but I didn’t really do anything much this time, what I did is concentrate more on my accomplishments and that made me feel real good. Thank you for a wonderful post as always. Great steps to take in 2020. Happy New Year, health, happiness and prosperity to you, oxox

  22. Linda Mace
    January 1, 2020 / 9:53 pm

    Wonderful advice! I’m so happy that Invisible No More shared this post on my group. yay!

  23. January 1, 2020 / 11:47 pm

    All wise advice, Caz. Best wishes to you for a new year of tranquility, renewed strength, continuing creativity, and happy surprises.
    Annie xx

  24. January 2, 2020 / 4:08 am

    Tidying up always makes me feel better. When things are messy and cluttered I cannot seem to focus on anything. This is such a great post! Very helpful and much needed for me right now.

  25. January 2, 2020 / 11:37 am

    Lovely post, Caz. Wonderful read for the New Year, especially when we’re bombarded with conflicting info on social media.

  26. January 2, 2020 / 12:01 pm

    I agree 100%. This new year is about moving forward with each new breath we take. Thank you for sharing wonderful thoughts on how to clear our minds and hearts, making room for more love and light in our lives.

  27. January 2, 2020 / 1:19 pm

    Happy New Year to you!
    May the ’20s bring you much peace and happiness.

  28. January 2, 2020 / 9:16 pm

    Happy New Year to you!! from Wales 👋
    Wishing you all you hope for in 2020
    Maz xx

  29. January 3, 2020 / 12:36 am

    I like your thinking Caz and I am on board. Happy New Year to You!

  30. January 4, 2020 / 8:58 pm

    Charlee: “Happy New Year! We are back!”
    Chaplin: “And we are sending lots of purrs that you have a great year, including finding a new good doctor!”
    Lulu: “And I’m sending tail wags for that, too!”

  31. January 5, 2020 / 7:56 am

    Number 2 is something I want to focus on this year – it is one of my 2020 ‘home’ goals. I never like to throw stuff away or get rid of it as often I’ve done this in the past and have needed it again in the future. But I totally agree that a tidy house equals a tidy mind and that is more important at times to help me cope with things on a daily basis xx

  32. January 5, 2020 / 2:05 pm

    Tidy up is SO true. I can’t get anything done at home if my house is cluttered.

  33. January 5, 2020 / 8:02 pm

    Great reminders, Caz. Sharing and wishing you a blessed and beautiful 2020!

  34. January 6, 2020 / 9:32 am

    This is great Caz and perfect for the year ahead. I really rate ‘tidy home, tidy mind’, I have actually just started an online course about clearing emotional and physical clutter, I hope that it helps! Lots of best wishes to you for 2020 xxx

  35. January 6, 2020 / 10:43 pm

    Such a thoughtful and thought provoking post! One big one for me in your suggestions is a tidy up. I know I’ll feel much better for it, but the piles never seem to get smaller….!😝😃

  36. January 7, 2020 / 10:29 am

    Great post, wonderful reminders and excellent pieces of advice! “Do what’s best for you” – is definitely something I want to focus on this year! Thank you Caz for another AMAZING post!! I wish you a wonderful 2020!!!!!

  37. January 7, 2020 / 11:55 pm

    Really appreciated this post!
    I’ve done a year-end review of my favorite things the last few years, and have enjoyed it in the past, but didn’t really feel it when I tried to start recapping 2019. I appreciated the reminder that we can benefit from processing the challenging—I think writing down and acknowledging the difficulties first will help me feel more ready to celebrate the good things from the last year.
    May your 2020 be full of hope!

  38. January 8, 2020 / 2:06 pm

    There are some great things to focus on here Caz. I’ve written something similar about why it’s so important to look at the new year in a different way, so I totally agree with you here! Have a wonderful new year xx

  39. January 9, 2020 / 2:33 am

    Wonderful post Caz! Happy new year to you .Have a great year ahead.I especially love point 4 , although all of them are equally good !

  40. January 10, 2020 / 3:23 pm

    Dearest Caz, Happy New Year! What a blessing you are and have been in my life and others. So very grateful to have ‘met’ you. I look forward to each of your posts, your thoughts, and your unique personality. You’ve knocked it out of the park yet again with this one.

    I think in life we get so caught up in what we ‘should’ be doing according to the perfectionist voices in our own minds or the world’s opinions that we do forget to make ourselves a priority. What we need isn’t always what we want or what we *think* we should be doing. Understanding what’s in our hearts and minds at any given moment is critical to our well-beings, don’t you think? Giving ourselves room to heal from hurts, traumas, difficult moments, illnesses, toxic situations/people will only make us more productive and successful in every other area of our lives. Sometimes we need to rest more than we need to be doing. In resting, we can find that inner peace with God and work our way through the mess and confusion.

    I agree too – I think, more often than not, our external space mirrors our internal reality. The more anxious, run down and cluttered we feel within – the more likely it is for our living space to be the same. Getting rid of the mess inside & out really do have a profound impact on how we feel. Isn’t that intriguing psychologically?

    Your points are absolutely perfect. Your wisdom is needed and your voice is so important in this crazy world, my friend. As always, it is refreshing to read your writing and feel your warmth through your words. I’m a forever fan of you, Caz! 💕 All My Best, Holly

  41. January 11, 2020 / 6:41 pm

    Happy new year to you too!
    The hardest step is the one about hope, but I’m giving it a try 😉

  42. January 13, 2020 / 1:59 pm

    Excellent, no nonsence, positive advice. Thanks!

  43. January 13, 2020 / 9:10 pm

    I suppose I could send you a message to say this, but I would have to figure out how to do that first. While I am here, I NEED to tell you how much I appreciate your “I’ve got your back” comments that you always leave for me. Sometimes its hard for me to comment on your posts, because I don’t have much to add to your already great advice. I just want to say that I’m glad you’ve got my back. Please know I always have yours as well

  44. January 18, 2020 / 8:20 pm

    I love your number 3 Caz. Focusing on what we can do, not the cannots. Reminds me of focusing on the good, not the bad. Identifying with the good parts of ourselves, not the bad. We choose what we identify with and make that bigger and bigger the more we focus on it/highlight it. And we can choose the focus for ourselves…. however easy/hard it is 🙂

    I’m glad I finally got to catch up with your blog. I missed reading it….

    Happy new year, again, C!
    I hope this year brings sunshine and sparkles your way…… You’re worth it…. And dolphins….

    Love, light and glitter

  45. January 20, 2020 / 5:47 pm

    Caz, so so love this! Every step you take, and point you make, is like love speaking with your words!! Thank you for being you, and for sharing your caring wisdom here. The truth sets you free and creating space for that is essential––you gift people tips to help with that here. Yay. And, it’s lovely to be back connected with you again. Be in touch whenever you are called to, I am here. <3 Wishing you a beautiful, authentic, and kindness inspired 2020!!!

  46. January 21, 2020 / 10:39 am

    This is great. Hope 2020 is the best novel in your life so far.

  47. March 15, 2020 / 7:39 pm

    Happy Be-lated New Year!!! Thank You for this. There were a couple of reminders it was very good for me to read today. Cheers and Rock on!!! 🙂

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