It’s hard when a friend, online or offline, is having a hard time. Maybe they’re struggling at the moment and feeling down, and you don’t know what to do to help. While things aren’t as easy during the pandemic, there are things you can do remotely unless you’re able to see that person safely in person. Here’s a look at 6 ways to lift a friend’s spirits & show them you care.
Does Your Friend Need A Boost?
Everyone has felt miserable at one point or another. This post isn’t about depression, it’s the general way in which any of us can feel low. Events such as breakups, hassles at work, friendship problems, falling ill, or something seemingly less obvious like losing sentimental items can all make people feel miserable. The Covid-19 pandemic is having a negative knock-on effect for many, on top of the day to day things that might make life harder and pull our spirits down.
“Everybody wants to be happy, nobody wants to be in pain. But you can’t have a rainbow, without any rain” – Dolly Parton.
If you’ve noticed a friend of yours is a little worse for wear, it’s natural to feel powerless and not quite sure what to do. In some instances you distance yourself because you fear you can’t add anything meaningful or helpful to their life right now, or you’re not sure if they’ll react well to your efforts. Actually, there’s SO much you could do to show that person that you care.
Below are six suggestions to help make your friend feel a little better, reminding them that they’re not alone and that someone cares about them.
♥ A Surprise Delivery
An out of the blue surprise is destined to put a smile one someone’s face. I personally love those ‘I saw this and thought of you’ gestures. The gift can be anything you like, whether you buy it or make it, it’s the thought and effort that count. For example, a bouquet of beautiful posies to brighten their home. Their favourite yummy chocolate, a good book, a novel mug or a cute bookmark. Maybe even some snuggly pyjamas.
There won’t be many people that don’t like receiving thoughtful gifts. You might think of something off the top of your head, get to making something yourself, or browse online for ideas. Once you know what you want to send, why not begin planning your surprise delivery today?
♥ Lift Them With Laughter
Laughter is a brilliant medicine to soothe the soul, positively influencing both our mental and physical state.
For instance, the giggles fight off invisible monsters such as stress, and in turn laughter can boost overall health and the immune system. Finding the funny side can help people to get a little perspective, making the difficult times seem a little less dark and daunting, even if only temporarily.
What’s more, laughter is free! Whether relaying an embarrassingly hilarious story that you’ve never told anyone, telling a bad joke, watching stand-up comedy on Netflix, or going through funny memes and YouTube clips, howling will automatically lift your friend’s spirits.
♥ Walk Together
We all know that exercise is important for physical and mental health, but it can seem less appealing when we’re feeling low, and perhaps even more so for some people when they’re doing it alone.
If your friend is hesitant to engage in their usual exercise routine or apprehensive about going for a walk on their own, why not go with them? Walking and talking is a multi-purpose activity because you’ll be bonding, maybe laughing, and exercising all at the same time, releasing feel-good endorphins and reducing loneliness.
♥ A Hug
When your friend is feeling sad, you don’t necessarily have to worry about saying the right thing, or saying anything at all for that matter. Actions often speak much louder than words. If your friend is happy with physical contact, embracing them with a hug might just be the spark that makes them feel loved and uplifted. A heartfelt hug is a kind and genuine way to show you care about someone.
If you’re a natural problem solver, it may be difficult for you to listen thoroughly to what the other person is telling you without adding how you think they can resolve the matter. But in some scenarios, particularly when someone is feeling miserable, your friend may want to be heard, to vent, and get something off their chest.
Whether they’re retelling stories about themselves and the current situation, or venting about their annoyance of everyday things getting on top of them, listening is a wonderful help to allow that person to release some of the worries and sadness they’re carrying around.
♥ Seize A Sunny Day
Vitamin D works wonders for the body and mind, from healthier bones and teeth, to boosting mental health. We need vitamin D to thrive and help us cope with daily stressors better. Plus, a sunny day usually makes us feel a little brighter just by looking out the window compared to grey skies.
When a sunny day arises, or if you see one coming up in the weather forecast, seize it! Reserve it for your friend that’s feeling down, and invite them to do an outdoor activity like a picnic in the park, a garden brunch at home, or a trip to the seaside. At the end of the day, your friend is bound to feel a bit better than they did before they ventured outdoors with you.
When your friend is feeling down, it more than likely makes you feel sad and unsure about what to do. Hopefully, the above suggestions have given you a few ways you can help lift someone’s spirits when they’re feeling blue.
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Well said Caz and some great tips as always.
These are some fabulous suggestions Caz! As you said, sometimes we may not know what to say or do, but these are all things that are easy to do and would be well-received. The most important thing is just to let them know we’re there for them, and these tips all accomplish that. I love the idea of the surprise deliveries. I recently sent my son homemade beef jerky and cookies to cheer him up. I knew I was sending him two things he really enjoys, and when he got it, he knew I was thinking of him. I think listening is probably one of the most important things we can do for someone else. As you said, the natural problem solvers may have a bit of a problem listening intently — We want to fix things — but often a person doesn’t want us to fix anything. They just want to know they’re not alone. Thanks for yet another fantastic and useful post!
Very brave and insightful post ,the tips will certainly help readers to save friends and relatives from the physical and mental problems prevalent during this pandemic.Thanks a lot for sharing.????????????
Great tips ???? specially the 2nd one????
There are so many simple ways to lift ones spirit. Most don’t cost anything. A wonderful list.
Have a fabulous day, Caz. ♥
I’m missing hugs…
I love sending people letters 🙂
These are great tips! I know when I’m down, just a text that says “I’m thinking about you” does wonders.
It’s true such small gestures make a big difference ! Lovely reminder Caz .
Great suggestions, I love all of them, I particularly like the surprise delivery one, being there for a friend with just a little simple gesture can mean the world to someone at a time when they may feel down. Thank you for this reminder of simple things that we can do. xoxo
I am that friend. I need a boost.
And it is the so-called “small thing” that resonates so loudly…
Great tips xx
These are great tips! I recently had a friend reach out to me out of the blue at exactly the time I needed it. It made me feel so special!! Sometimes it’s just the little things that mean the most.
Hope to use these Wonderful tips. Thanks for sharing!
Having a laugh is so important. They do say laughter is the best medicine, and it definitely cheers me up or takes my mind of things.
These are lovely suggestions, Caz!!! What a thoughtful, wonderful friend YOU are for sharing them! Thank You! Huge hugs Your way!!! ????❤️????
Great tips, Caz! I usually do the walk and shop in a mall with my friend. Have a good day!
Some lovely and thoughtful ideas :). I find sometimes just being there for someone to talk to really helps and I know I appreciate it if a friend wants to listen when I’m feeling low. Thanks for sharing Caz.
I really like these suggestions Caz. So many times we think we cant help a friend who is down, when we really can at no cost. LISTEN – I feel so much better when I drop a whole lot a weight on my best friend. He’s good at letting me vent before saying anything. A new service on Amazon lets people with Amazon accounts watch a movie together.
The host sends out links to 1 or 100 friends. The host starts the movie and friends can comment and chat in the background. I tried this with 2 people and its fun. (Not available in the UK yet.)
It was fun and didn’t cost a cent.
Just talking about our day can take the mind off heavy issues for a minute.
Im just getting to this post. Its Friday now so enjoy your weekend Caz!
I have a friend who has been going through a rough patch. She came over midweek, and we just sat outside and chatted. She was visibly revived before she left.
I recently had an old friend from college unexpectedly invite me to join him and one of his sons for an online video game on Steam. We played for about four hours and it was a lot of fun to chat and kill monsters together, just like in the old days. Only with better graphics!
What a lovely post, Caz. You’re right, it can be more difficult at times to listen rather than offer solutions. I’ve heard myself doing that and had to rein myself in. I love that you mentioned giving a hug. I used to say that a hug says whatever can’t be put into words. That was pre-covid!
Great tips, thanks Caz! Kindness is the most important thing in the world. I think being chronically ill helps us empathise more with anyone who is suffering, as we understand it more than anyone x
Dearest Caz, I adore everything about this post! It hit me right in the feelies, as you like to say! 😀 (I love that, by the way!)
I couldn’t possibly write a reply to this post without first acknowledging how much *your* friendship means. Your words of encouragement, unique insight/wisdom, and genuine care has made many of my days MUCH better. I am so very grateful to have ‘met’ you in this big ol’ blogging world, even if you are across the pond! In all sincerity, thank you for all you do to make this world a much more beautiful and kind place. I appreciate you!
These suggestions are all amazing. Far too often in life, we erroneously think that our gestures must be grand in order to be effective. It really couldn’t be farther from the truth. Genuine thoughtfulness goes a very long way. Just to know we are loved, thought of, prayed for, and cared about, can turn even the darkest of days much brighter. Our most basic needs are to be heard and loved, after all. Simply knowing that someone else cares enough to take the time to actually listen and empathize (even when it’s tough to!), means the whole world. Wouldn’t you agree?
I honestly can’t pick a favorite from this list, as I agree wholeheartedly with them all. Another amazing post, Caz. You’ve caused my day to be happier just read this. You are loved and deeply cherished! ????