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5 Alternative Thoughts on Self-Care

by InvisiblyMe
A wooden plank background in multi-colour, with a blue-tone heart in the middle. The post title is in white in the middle: 5 alternative thoughts on self-care.

What Is Self-Care?

I was thinking about what to write for a self-care post when I know this is an area I don’t excel at. Practice what I say and not what I do, comes to mind. There may be many of us that feel similar, with knowing we could be kinder to ourselves and practice more self-care from time to time.

There are different elements of self-care. There are lower level, surface types of self-care that can be found in the small things, like treating yourself, moisturising, a luxurious bath. Then there are the bigger, more meaningful aspects of self-care, the ways in which you behave in your daily day where you’re actively showing yourself that you matter.

Here are a 5 alternative things to consider when it comes to self care. 

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1. Stop The Comparison Game

It’s easy to compare yourself and your situation to that of others, whether they’re friends, colleagues, acquaintances on social media or random strangers. We can be our own worst enemy when we pick ourselves apart, weighing ourselves against others and feeling like we never measure up. We can compare anything and everything; how we look, our financial situation, living arrangement, social life, and even our level of happiness.

When we compare, we’re comparing assumptions and perceptions. But things aren’t always as they seem because people only show you want they want you to see. We’re never good enough when we play the comparison game. It’s time to celebrate yourself and your life, as perfectly imperfect as it is. There’s only one you, and that is always going to be good enough. 

2. Be Assertive

Be your own advocate for your needs. Learn to be okay with asking for what you want, and stand up for yourself. Learn to say no. You owe it to yourself to use your freedom of speech and choice.

3. Focus On What You Can Do

There are plenty of things in life we can’t control, including other people. But you can control how you respond, and how you deal with what life throws your way. Don’t fall into the trap of focusing on the things you can’t change, or the things you can’t do for whatever reason.

Instead, focus on what you can do, not what you can’t. Take back a little control in your life and start to direct your attention to the things you can do, no matter how small.

4. Ditch the Guilt & Forgive

Guilt can be pervasive and incredibly damaging, sneaking in at every opportunity. Dig a little deeper to see where this guilt is coming from. Don’t apologise for being you and don’t feel bad for taking care of your own needs. When life gets overwhelming, cut yourself some slack; you’re doing your best, so take a step back, breathe and rest, without feeling guilty about it.

Many of us also find it easier to forgive others than ourselves, but it’s an important step to healing hurt, nourishing ourselves, and ditching the guilt. 

5. Write Your Own Rules

There seem to be unwritten rules and guidelines in society about how your life ‘should’ look and what you ‘should’ achieve by certain points in your life. It assumes that these are things you want, but do you really even want them? It can be a heavy weight on your shoulders with the pressures and expectations, but do these ‘rules’ even apply to you? Re-evaluate what your values and goals are. Decide for yourself what you want and what makes you happy. Furthermore, we don’t always get a choice when our life takes a detour, such as if we suffer ill health.

Our lives don’t always look the way we’d expected, but that’s okay. It doesn’t mean you can’t carve out a new path and enjoy a scenic route, making the most of your journey as best you can. Forget about what others think. Live your own life by your own rules. 

What To Remember About Self-Care

Self-care is not self-indulgent & it is not selfish. It’s vital to your mental & physical health, helping you to live your best life & to be there for those around you, too. Without self-care, we can easily become more exhausted, overwhelmed, utterly frazzled, frustrated, and even resentful.

Self-care is about taking responsibility for ourselves. It’s about making sure our basic needs are met first, then going beyond those to treat ourselves with more kindness and compassion. 

Do you struggle with self-care? Do you feel you’d like to work on some of these points to give your self-care a boost?

Caz  â™„

I’ve also shared this post on Kate’s blog, so a huge thank you to her for featuring me. Please do check out her fab blog if you haven’t already!

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79 comments

Elaine October 2, 2019 - 4:41 pm

I couldn’t have written this better myself ???? fantastic post as usual Caz x

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InvisiblyMe October 4, 2019 - 2:44 pm

Aww, that’s very kind of you to say. I’m really glad you liked it, thanks, Elaine!  ♄
xx

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Megala October 2, 2019 - 4:19 pm

Wonderful article! Thanks for sharing. I lately understood the difference between self love & selfish. 🙂

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InvisiblyMe October 4, 2019 - 2:42 pm

It’s a tough one to get your head around, but it’s so important because self-care and self-love are so needed and shouldn’t come with guilt. Glad you liked the post, thanks, Megala  ♄ xx

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Sandee October 2, 2019 - 4:30 pm

Excellent advice, Caz. Beating yourself up helps no one. We are what we are and should always be proud of that.

Have a fabulous day and rest of the week, my friend. ♄

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InvisiblyMe October 4, 2019 - 2:44 pm

Absolutely, and yet beating ourselves up seems to come far too easily for a lot of us. Thanks for the comment lovely. I hope you & hubby have a good weekend ahead ???? xx

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Benjamin Bell October 2, 2019 - 4:42 pm

Great advice!

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InvisiblyMe October 4, 2019 - 2:51 pm

Glad you thought so, thanks ????Hope you have a relaxing weekend ahead, Mr! x

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Toni October 2, 2019 - 5:47 pm

Great post and advice Caz! x

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InvisiblyMe October 4, 2019 - 3:00 pm

Aw, thanks, Toni! I hope you have a relaxing weekend ahead to recuperate from the week ???? xx

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da-AL October 2, 2019 - 6:22 pm

Great advice for everything!

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InvisiblyMe October 4, 2019 - 3:01 pm

Thanks, da-AL! Have a lovely weekend ahead ???? xx

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Michelle Tikalsky October 2, 2019 - 6:30 pm

I have learned not to compare myself to others when I used social media a lot in the past. My journey is my own and not someone else’s. I am guilty of saying yes in situations where I should say no. But I say yes out of nerves when I know the best thing is to say no. Looking back, I wouldn’t be where I am today if I listened to my family. I listened to what I knew was best for me and I fought for it. Great post

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InvisiblyMe October 4, 2019 - 3:05 pm

“My journey is my own and not someone else’s” – that is such a powerful thing to learn and moving away from not comparing isn’t easy. Likewise with saying no. I still struggle on that sometimes, too. I’m glad you’ve been able to be more assertive and to have more confidence in your decisions, keep listening to your instincts and doing what’s best for you. Thank you for sharing this, Michelle!  ♄ xx

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Marilyn Long October 2, 2019 - 8:11 pm

Well said dear Caz. Succinct and right on the nail! Headings would make a great little ‘prompt’ card to keep in your wallet.
Thank you for your wise words.
Maz x

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InvisiblyMe October 4, 2019 - 3:07 pm

Aww, thank you! That’s very kind of you to say, Maz. And what a fab idea with the prompt cards! I think we probably all need self-care reminders from time to time. I hope you have a relaxing weekend ahead lovely  ♄ xx

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Nisha October 2, 2019 - 9:44 pm

What a beautiful post Caz, really touches your soul. Need to read it everyday to remind ourselves ! Bookmarking it.Thanks for such a wonderful share!

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InvisiblyMe October 4, 2019 - 3:08 pm

I think a lot of us probably need these kinds of self care reminders on a regular basis – I’m so glad you liked the post, and I really appreciate your lovely comment! ???? xx

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Terri, Reclaiming HOPE October 2, 2019 - 11:19 pm

These are some fabulous tips Caz! Your statement, “When we compare, we’re comparing assumptions and perceptions.” is so insightful, and so true. You never know what’s going on behind people’s “masks” that they wear out in public. They may be looking at you and thinking they wish they could trade places…. I loved the tip to “write your own rules.” Tying our actions to our values is one way to make sure we’re living the life we want to live, regardless of our circumstances. Thanks for another brilliant post!

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InvisiblyMe October 4, 2019 - 5:07 pm

“Tying our actions to our values”, I like that, a great way to put it. I’m really pleased you liked the post, thank you, Terri!  ♄ xx

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Annie October 7, 2019 - 4:05 pm

So wise and on target, Caz. Practicing mindfulness meditation helps me in this regard. May you/I/we be filled with loving kindness—I say it daily.

I think your opening was great—as you immediately realized you were falling into an unnecessary bind of your own making.
Keep up the good work —for yourself and others!

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Bree October 2, 2019 - 10:40 pm

Great post and something I need to do more of.

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InvisiblyMe October 4, 2019 - 4:26 pm

I hope this can serve as a reminder for you, Bree – good excuse to practice on the weekend! ???? xx

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Debbie Jones October 2, 2019 - 11:05 pm

Great advice here, Caz! We are often unnecessarily hard on ourselves. Thank you for such a superbly put reminder to cut ourselves some slack more often!

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InvisiblyMe October 4, 2019 - 5:06 pm

We really do need to cut ourselves more slack, more often. I’m so glad you liked the post, thank you!  ♄ I hope you have a lovely weekend, Debbie xx

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Masha Ellman October 3, 2019 - 6:02 am

Thank you Caz for introducing me to Kate and I did sign up, Everything you wrote is such great advise, I used to compare myself to others and that always made me feel less than, I used to not feel good enough, smart enough, whatever enough, and I held on to that for years. It wasn’t until I had a spiritual awakening that I slowly started to realize that I’m me, on my own journey and comparing myself to others only kept me from moving forward on my journey. And now I “write my own rules” and carve my own path. Very insightful blog post. thank you

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InvisiblyMe October 4, 2019 - 5:11 pm

That’s fab, Masha – Kate is wonderful and incredibly intelligent with her posts, she’s quite the source of inspiration, much like yourself! I’m so glad you liked the post and it’s wonderful to hear how you’ve been able to gradually move away from comparing yourself to others and to carve your own path, too. ???? xx

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Naomi October 3, 2019 - 6:08 am

Here here! Living on a narrow boat I’ve definitely chosen to move away from the norm… the only problem is that if I keep doing what I ‘can’ do, I never see people…

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InvisiblyMe October 4, 2019 - 5:33 pm

It’s tricky getting the balance sometimes with what we can do, and weighing up the costs vs benefits. I do hope you’re able to still people, and to keep in touch online in between. Life on a narrow boat, I’ve always wondered what that would be like! ???? xx

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Brigid Gallagher October 3, 2019 - 9:36 am

Wonderful advice Caz. I can relate to all of these. Life is a big school opf learning.

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InvisiblyMe October 4, 2019 - 5:38 pm

Amen to that, it’s all a learning curve, which takes a bit of pressure off feeling we have to get things ‘right’ all the time! xx

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Michelle October 3, 2019 - 2:04 pm

Caz, you’ve put together an amazing list of what are probably the most essential ingredients to working toward self love and acceptance, which lead to real happiness in life, especially for those of us with chronic illness. This is a really brilliant way to get people thinking about what self care really is and why it’s so critical to our mental health and satisfaction! Xx

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InvisiblyMe October 6, 2019 - 4:01 pm

‘Essential ingredients’, I like that! I’m going to have to do a ‘self care recipe’ one day ????Thank you for the fab comment lovely! Much appreciated. I hope the week ahead treats you kindly (and that you treat yourself likewise!) xx

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Sandra October 3, 2019 - 1:17 pm

Great advice, Caz. Just what I needed right now 🙂

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InvisiblyMe October 4, 2019 - 5:39 pm

I’m really glad you liked the post  ♄ I hope you have a relaxing weekend (with plenty of self care), Sandra xx

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Despite Pain October 3, 2019 - 1:38 pm

Fantastic post, Caz. People think of self-care as a relaxing bubble bath with some nice music playing in the background. But the reality is exactly what you have posted here. We need to ditch the guilt and focus on our own needs and yes, stop comparing ourselves to others. You are spot on with each of your points.

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InvisiblyMe October 4, 2019 - 5:41 pm

Exactly my line of thinking – I think all the bubble bath type ideas are great, but that’s one part of self-care, not the crux of what self care is about. I’m really pleased you thought the points were on target, thanks, Liz xx

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Stacey Chapman October 3, 2019 - 1:57 pm

Really great post with some great reminders. I love the one about not comparing yourself. It’s so true and a trap that most of us fall into; which simply isn’t fair to ourselves. Over the past few years, I am finally setting boundaries for myself and with others. We’re inclined to think that makes us not nice, but the reality is that we need to take care of ourselves first, before we can take care of anyone else. Love this post, Caz! Brilliant!

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InvisiblyMe October 6, 2019 - 4:00 pm

You’re right, so many of us fall into the comparison trap and it’s not fair on ourselves. It’s so good to hear how you’re starting to set those boundaries and accepting that self-care is important, not something to be viewed negatively or to be laden with guilt. So glad you liked the post, thanks, Stace!  ♄ xx

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Jo - Tea and Cake for the Soul October 3, 2019 - 5:57 pm

Great post. I don’t compere myself in regards to what people have but I do find it’s very easy to compere my blogging achievents with others which does have the negative effect of me wondering why I do it. I have to remind myself why.

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InvisiblyMe October 6, 2019 - 4:12 pm

You’re right, it’s hard not to compare yourself to other bloggers. I do it without realising and always feel awful. It does help to consciously catch yourself doing it and remind yourself it does you no favours. I hope you’re having a relaxing weekend so far, Jo! xx

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Richa October 3, 2019 - 6:03 pm

Excellent advice, Caz. ????

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InvisiblyMe October 6, 2019 - 4:27 pm

Thanks, Richa! I hope you have a great week ahead ???? xx

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Jan October 3, 2019 - 9:04 pm

So many excellent points – I think being assertive about your needs is the most difficult. At least for me.

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InvisiblyMe October 6, 2019 - 4:30 pm

It really can be. I think seeing it as a constant work-in-progress helps, sometimes we do it better at it than other times. I hope you can keep working on being assertive about your needs, Jan  ♄ xx

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Alice October 4, 2019 - 5:13 am

I always think I’m quite good at self-care but I often read these posts and I always get a reminder that I can do more. I talk about points 2 and 3 in my blog quite a lot. They’ve not been easy to learn to do but time has been a big helper here. That, and getting older makes you learn to put more things in to perspective. Points 1 and 4 though are things I need to work on. No one else knows your pain or illness like you do, and you should never feel guilty about anything when it’s out of your control. Great post Caz xx

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InvisiblyMe October 6, 2019 - 5:06 pm

I’m glad the post was like a reminder that you can do more, and it’s brilliant you’re already doing well with putting self-care into practice. I have a long way to go, especially with the guilt factor. “No one else knows your pain or illness like you do, and you should never feel guilty about anything when it’s out of your control” – So very well said. Thanks for the great comment, Alice. I hope the week ahead treats you kindly  ♄ xx

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Debbie October 4, 2019 - 8:48 am

Caz, I really needed to read these points this week. You’re so right, it’s not selfish or self indulgent to take care of ourselves. Thanks for you reminders and I really appreciate your kind words on my recent posts. This post brings it all together!! Great words and advice to us all.

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InvisiblyMe October 6, 2019 - 5:47 pm

I’m glad this post came at a good time and that you liked it – thank you for the lovely comment, Deb!  ♄ I hope you have a good week ahead & that you practice some of this self-care malarky ???? xx

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Holly October 4, 2019 - 12:58 pm

Such an incredible post Caz. I agree with you wholeheartedly. The comparison game is definitely the most pervasive epidemic society has going for it now. It’s not that we didn’t play the comparison game before. It just wasn’t as ‘in your face’ all the time. Filters and staged moments photos, along with carefully planned blog posts make people feel like they just aren’t measuring up. What I love was your statement: “When we compare, we’re comparing assumptions and perceptions. But things aren’t always as they seem because people only show you want they want you to see.” Amen Caz, you nailed it! No one could have said it better.

Pulling away from ‘the game’ to regain some reality can be incredibly healing for the soul. We often become desensitized from our exposures to this phoniness – not even realizing the toll it’s taking on our mental health.

I also love your points on self-care and self-forgiveness. Letting go of guilt and condemnation, that feeling of not being enough. That’s a tough one for me, as it is for so many. The dark road it leads to though will take you on a trip from hell. Once we allow those negative thoughts in, it can be hard to get back to right thinking. Being more aware of when we are being too hard on ourselves, comparing ourselves or simply not appreciating who we are – keeps the depression and anxiety from gripping us in the first place.

Keep being you, Caz. You’re an inspiration and a joy. ♄

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InvisiblyMe October 7, 2019 - 1:49 pm

Aw, thank you for such an incredibly awesome and kind comment, Holly. You make a brilliant point with ‘the game’ and how we can ‘become desensitized from our exposures to this phoniness’. I think that’s so true because it’s all around us, almost relentlessly, and it becomes par for the course. Absolutely, those feelings of guilt and not being good enough can be incredibly difficult to challenge as they’re pervasive, and you’re not alone in feeling that. I just hope that bit by bit you can see what a con it is; guilt over taking care of yourself and your needs has no place in your life, and you are a beautiful person who will always, always, be enough. Thanks again for the comment, it’s very much appreciated. I hope this week is kind to you, and that you’re likewise kind to yourself ???? xx

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Susan Moore October 4, 2019 - 11:46 pm

Very helpful to be reminded of these things, and so true. Thank you for sharing!

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InvisiblyMe October 7, 2019 - 1:50 pm

You’re welcome; I’m glad you liked the post, thanks, Susan! ???? x

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Michele Anderson October 5, 2019 - 1:18 am

Self care is so important. It makes us happier more balanced humans. I feel that you can’t take care of other people if you don’t take care of yourself first. As far as rules go, I try not to follow any. 🙂 xo

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InvisiblyMe October 7, 2019 - 1:51 pm

Spot on – I think it really is true about how you can’t take care of others until you take care of yourself. Eventually you reach an impasse. Self care really does help us to be more balanced and happier. Thanks for sharing, Michele! xx

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Katy October 5, 2019 - 11:18 am

Wow. Love this article, Caz! Thank You!!! It was good for me to read this this morning. Cheers!!! 🙂

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InvisiblyMe October 7, 2019 - 1:52 pm

Aww that’s great, glad you liked it! Hope you have a good week ahead, Katy  ♄ xx

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Helen's Journey October 6, 2019 - 12:20 am

Great list Caz of alternative things to remember and consider when it comes to our self care and our general approach to ourselves. Thanks for the reminders and assurances that our differences are still okay even if we do t have what we thought we would have by a certain age. This stood out to me as another birthday has just passed me by.
Helen xx

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InvisiblyMe October 7, 2019 - 2:13 pm

I’m glad it resonated with you, and I hope you had a lovely birthday, Helen ♄???? xx

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The Oceanside Animals October 6, 2019 - 2:46 pm

Charlee: “We agree with you on all of this.”
Chaplin: “Yeah and if anyone is an expert on self-care it’s us cats, am I right?”

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InvisiblyMe October 7, 2019 - 2:18 pm

Absolutely, cats have self-care, mindfulness and stress-relief practiced and perfected, they’re masters at all three! ????

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Jenny October 7, 2019 - 9:33 am

I love the way that you have not focussed on the ‘traditional’ self-care acts and instead thought about it from a self-love and acceptance point of view. I am definitely a person who needs to be able to be a bit more assertive – or at least think that I am not wrong for being so! Fantastic post Caz xx

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InvisiblyMe October 7, 2019 - 2:21 pm

I’m glad you like the alternative angle, Jen! I think self-care has lots of facets, so I wanted to cover the more ‘deep & meaning’ side. Being assertive is good, it took me years to gradually be more assertive; it’s something I think they should do lessons on in school! I hope this week is a little better for you (with no accidents, further surprise problems or hospital trips!)  Sending hugs ♄ xx

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Rachel, The Invisible Hypothyroidism October 9, 2019 - 11:00 am

It’s so important because self-care isn’t all about bubble baths and face masks. It’s also doing things that promote your ongoing health, such as advocating for yourself.

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InvisiblyMe October 22, 2019 - 7:50 am

Self care needs to ‘promote your ongoing health’, absolutely! Thanks, Rachel xx

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Jay October 11, 2019 - 5:49 pm

These are great tips, especially because the ‘selfcare industry’ has become so commercialized, and so many options encourage you to spend money – buy a book, join a yoga studio, have a facial, etc etc. Really, inner selfcare is the most important part – and so is TIME.

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InvisiblyMe October 22, 2019 - 7:52 am

I do quite like the self-care industry in some ways because having something physical can make me think more about taking time out for myself, but it completely misses the more meaningful aspects of what self care is all about and you’re right about how commercialised it has become. Time and inner self-care can’t be bought. Thanks for the very thoughtful comment, Jay!  ♄ xx

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Cheryl Wright October 22, 2019 - 9:44 pm

Great list! I certainly have to learn to advocate for myself more.

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InvisiblyMe October 23, 2019 - 3:27 pm

Glad you liked the list, Cheryl. I think advocating for yourself & being more assertive can be a long process, and a continual work in progress, can’t it? I hope the next time you’re in a position where you could/should be your own advocate that you’re able to do just that ♄ xx

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Anne Copeland October 27, 2019 - 4:37 am

Loved this! I wrote a longer response to the last post I saw on the list so I will just address something I and others in my area have been through. I totally agree with you though, regardless of the situation. In my area, bullying is a big-time activity where others think it is ok to bully you whether you are a young and inexperienced child of virtually any age, or a seasoned senior who has lived through a lot of things. It can be about having braces if you are a young child, or it can be about seniors who are getting their Norco from drug dealers in your senior mobile home park. I know we have had a lot of suicides here of children barely in their teens getting bullied over wearing braces or glasses, or perhaps it is the type of clothing they are wearing or the way their hair is cut. And the seniors get quite riled up as many are already addicted to Norco and they cannot bear to be without it. The dealers probably make more money selling Norco than they do cocaine or similar drugs.

So bullying is another aspect you may have to face if you have a physical challenge or one that is developmental or perhaps emotional. All of these are valid. I have permanent PTSD from being assaulted in my old senior mobile home park. It was a terrifying and majorly depressing thing because I was up against so many other seniors, and I cannot to this day believe how absolutely vindictive they can be if you get in their way of getting what they want. I have one of my degrees, Criminal Justice, most recently earned in 2016 when I had the cancer. So I had been trying to get it stopped in my park, not realizing how many other seemingly innocent people were involved. They tried two other times to assault me too, so it was extremely stressful, and I am certain I could have handled it better had I realized the full picture. The people living right next to me had committed trafficking of 13-year-old girls, and making and selling of meth, cocaine, and Norco. Although I managed to get some arrests, California has the worst record with felons, having released approx. 30,000 of them several times who had supposedly never done any violent activities during the performing of their crimes.

The law is very complex and we don’t always get the full picture of what that means in the courts. So things happen that if I were to sit in a judge’s place, would result in a sentence where there was none that would hold up. It’s easy to say, but the reality is that a person can be guilty of a lot of violent acts and not be caught for that, especially if those who are the victims are reluctant to speak up.

Well, this is another area where we do need to be our own advocates and also to be assertive if our rights are being abused. I have read somewhere that Native American Women (US and Canada) have one of the highest numbers of assaults, tortures and murders, and people with disabilities are next. Special Needs Children are not figured in the statistics because they are grouped together with ALL the children who are assaulted, raped, tortured and murdered. So this is against them before anything even happens. And what about the homeless? If any people in this U.S. are invisible, it is the homeless people. If one of them is found dead, if they cannot be readily identified from the typical means of so doing, they are just put into the morgue with a lot of other unidentified, and then they are all cremated together when there are enough of them, much the same way animals are put down when no one comes to claim or adopt them.

What is said about trying to be your own advocate and to also do self-protective measures is important for all of us. I think this issue is bigger than ever before and something we all need to consider when we think of being our own advocates. We are all here on the earth because our lives are sacred; if we were not meant to be here, we would not be. As such, we are ALL, regardless of any other issues, meant to be part of the world, and of the universe. Do stand up for yourself even if you are an army of one. It is more important than you can imagine. For every one of you who stand up for yourself no matter what, you may be helping to save the life or lives of others in this world. We have no way of knowing, but if you have stood up for yourself, you will inspire someone else to do the same. Thank you for your excellent article. I know that this seems off topic, but it really is not.

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InvisiblyMe October 27, 2019 - 4:39 pm

Oh my goodness, it’s incredibly sad how rife bullying is in your area and how many lives have been so hurt and even lost to suicide as a result. You’re right, bullying is another issue to factor in. I’m so sorry you were assaulted like that, and for everything you’ve been through, yet you’ve shown such grace and kindness and strength in turning that into goodness by trying to stop such awful things happening to others. “Do stand up for yourself even if you are an army of one” – I agree with this wholeheartedly. I think when we start to question our worth, when we feel maybe we’re not worth fighting for and that we don’t deserve to stand up for ourselves, that our ability to be our own advocates can weaken. And that’s absolutely the time when we need to do it the most. And of course there are times when a helping hand is so vital. I think as a society the world would be a better place if we both advocated for ourselves and were there for the others around us, family/friends/neighbours/strangers, because surely that’s a kindness we should be giving to ourselves and to others. Thank you so much for sharing your experience and your opinions, Anne. It made me a little teary towards the end and I wanted to shout ‘hell yeah’! You’ve said it all beautifully. Thank you  ♄

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The Lonely Author November 1, 2019 - 6:30 pm

As always, a great post Caz. Self care is so important. Being one’s own advocate is so important. How many people go to the doctor waiting on his word, too afraid to question a prescription or ask for alternative medicines. People tend to think doctor’s are infallible
and it just isn’t so. We have to take an active anproactive role whe it comes to issues of our health. – Drew

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InvisiblyMe November 2, 2019 - 6:05 pm

You are spot on with this, in needing to acknowledge that doctors and specialists aren’t infallible and to take a proactive role in our own care and health. Thank you for your thoughts, Drew. I hope you have a restful weekend.x

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Kim November 3, 2019 - 2:22 pm

This is great advice! I think we’re all a little too hard on ourselves sometimes. Something I’ve been trying to learn lately is to be more assertive and focus on my own needs.

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InvisiblyMe November 3, 2019 - 4:26 pm

Knowing that you need/would like to be more assertive and make your own needs more of a priority is a great start, Kim – I think we can go for years without even realising those things are important and need work. I hope you can worth on both because you’re important, too. Really glad you liked the post, thanks lovely!  ♄ xx

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gaillovesgod November 21, 2019 - 1:30 am

Great article, Caz! I snagged you picture to put on my laptop wallpaper…. fousing on what I can do. 😉
Thanks for sharing! Me and God love you!

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InvisiblyMe November 21, 2019 - 12:06 pm

I might have to do that for my wallpaper too, such a good idea. Glad you liked this post, Gail – thank you for the comment!  ♄ xx

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Lorna @ Gin & Lemonade December 4, 2019 - 5:26 pm

Caz, have I told you lately how much I love this?

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InvisiblyMe December 6, 2019 - 3:52 pm

Aw thanks, Lorna – really glad you love it!  ♄
xx

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