Today I’m linking up with Rachel from The Invisible Hypothyroidism to share a guest post she’s kindly written for InvisiblyMe. It’s along the lines of issues I’ve touched on before, with the elusive nature of happiness, the rat race, the need to redefine our own version of what happiness means for us individually. Enjoy!
Happiness Isn’t a Destination
There is this idea within society that everyone should be aiming for something called ‘happiness’. We are told that ‘being happy’ is the ultimate goal in life, yet, if I was to become ‘happy’, for example in the sense that being 100% healthy would equal being happy, I fear that I would lose who I am. I would lose what makes me, me.
My health conditions have shaped who I am today and because of them, they have shaped my life and how I have to live it. After being diagnosed with my health conditions for several years now, I have learnt to work through the grieving process of feeling angry and shouting “It’s just not fair!” and have learnt to embrace how life has shaped me in to a better person.
However, as human beings, we are not meant to be one consistent emotion, such as ‘happy’. We go through numerous emotions throughout any given day and ‘happiness’ is just one of them that we may, or may not feel, on that particular day. How unattainable a goal it is to aim to reach that place that can’t be sustained forever? An emotion, a feeling, where we inevitably won’t stay? Yet we are encouraged to run after this idea of ‘being happy’. Unfalteringly happy.
To treat ‘happiness’ as a destination is just not realistic. And to think that it is a destination we will permanently be placed in is even more unrealistic
I don’t know about you, but I just want to feel at peace, especially with my new life. ‘New life’ meaning since I became a chronic illness warrior. A spoonie.
By feeling at peace, I mean that I learn to accept I will feel sad some days, angry or frustrated others and, on some days, happy. Because peace is accepting all of this. Peace is accepting that life is life and there is no one emotion or ‘state of happiness’ that will suddenly all fall into place when we tick things off a checklist set by society.
Just making peace with the fact that we’re human and we come in a whole range of emotions is absolutely fine. We’re allowed tricky days, days where we barely make it through and we’re allowed fantastic days.
But reaching happiness isn’t a destination or goal. You can’t keep it. It isn’t a possession. So work with what you’re feeling today and don’t go chasing after this destination called ‘happiness’, for it does not exist.
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[ Author : Rachel, The Invisible Hypothyroidism ]
Thyroid Patient Advocate. Diagnosed with Hypothyroidism, Hashimoto’s Thyroiditis and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (ME), as well as having experience with Adrenal Fatigue, Depression and Anxiety Disorder, Rachel is an advocate for better quality of life for hypothyroid patients and writes at The Invisible Hypothyroidism, covering all aspects of what it’s like to have these conditions. Rachel is one of the many faces of thyroid disease and she’s passionate about helping those with hypothyroidism and giving them a voice. In addition to her blog, you can also follow Rachel on Facebook and Instagram.