That’s it for another year. Done & dusted.
I’d like to say it was good knowing you 2017, but you’ve not been wonderful. Looking back, it’s been a blur; there have been good and bad times to come from it, but with all of them a stronger resolve for a brighter 2018.
Here are my top 3 in a few categories for this year.
- Major surgery to remove large bowel & reform stoma (followed by a handful of A&E trips for problems afterwards).
- Official fibromyalgia diagnosis with the start of physiotherapy & pain management.
- 2 bad flus and 4+ chest infections, along with a pulled intercostal muscle & cracked rib from all the coughing.
- Family health problems, especially my father, and then my uncle who’s still in hospital after emergency surgery suffering from abdominal & brain aneurysms.
- Legal proceedings and raising awareness from a less than satisfactory (understatement) surgery.
- I lost my job earlier in the year when I found out I needed another operation. Thoughts of future work and finances have been a constant source of anxiety and worry for me.
- Quorn is a newness for me this year. I tried it because I wanted an easy-to-digest alternative after stoma surgery and I’ve been pleasantly surprised by the ‘like chicken’ options in terms of taste, quality, and versatility. Love the stuff!
- Having never been on a proper holiday before per se, this was a big one for me. Going to Spain made me realise just how much my body appreciates the warmth and struggles with the UK weather!
- I’ve had my palm read! Okay, so it was by a machine, and I had to put my hand in a statue’s mouth, and the reading was totally wrong, but it still counts.
- I’m forever grateful for the NHS, who have been there through a lot of my health problems. I have so many annoyances and frustrations with being let down and fobbed off for so many years, and I know I wouldn’t even be in this mess if someone had listened to me at the start, but I also have to appreciate the few supportive surgeons, specialists and doctors I’ve seen more recently. Holding on to the past and the anger doesn’t help move things forward.
- My parents have been understanding and supportive, and I’m very lucky to have them in my corner. I look after them too, and I love that it’s a two way street so that we can be there for each other.
- I am grateful for modern technology opening up a whole new world when it comes to health-related information, support and also blogging. I’ve loved blogging this year, as well as reading so much new content from others. I’m grateful for some of the amazing bloggers and other men and women from online groups out there that I’ve ‘met’.
- I have quite a few, but it’s important to try to reframe what you see as a regret as a learning curve or a stepping stone towards a different path. I do, however, regret my ability to over-stress, to feel guilty and to be negative about myself; I know such overthinking doesn’t help and I know what I could do differently, I just find it far easier to advise others to do such things rather than apply them to myself.
How has your 2017 been? Amazing, awful, a mixed bag? It’s important to take a step back as the year draws to an end to see what’s happened.
So often it can go by in a blur and you skip a lot of the good things, focusing instead on the negatives. A lot of negatives can also been seen in a more positive way (even if it takes a bucket load of effort). We can use our experiences to guide us in the next year when it comes to figuring out what we want, where we want our lives to go, and to work at getting our brains into a more hopeful mindset for the future.