I’m a few days late with this but I was encouraged by reading other posts about goals for the month and wanted to have a go at setting my own. There’s nothing major here, not by a long shot, but sometimes it’s the small things that can add up and make a big difference. I want to focus a little more on self-care and development, so here we go…
1. Challenge myself to a small walk every other day – I’m lucky in that there’s a small newsagent at the end of the road, which takes about a minute to walk to. Then there’s a small convenience store in the other direction, which takes a couple of minute. I’ve managed to get to both with the excuse of buying a newspaper, and even though the walking has been slow and rather painful it’s an empowering achievement. I want to make sure I do it more regularly now I’ve managed them both at least once.
2. Make sure to eat little and often throughout the day – This includes trying to have something for breakfast (never been much of a brekkie person). It’s not always easy eating when you don’t feel well or simply don’t feel hungry but it’s important, especially as I’ve lost a little weight since the surgery and need to keep my body fed for Frank (stoma) to be happy.
3. Stress less! It didn’t take me long – less than two weeks out of the hospital – before I started to revert to my old ways of overthinking, worrying about things and fretting about the future, and trying to plan things I can’t control. It doesn’t help me mentally or physically and I need to get some distance from that way of thinking. This will be the most challenging goal!
4. Be okay with not being okay – Strangely enough, I was quite perky when I first came home from hospital. Now, I wouldn’t say I have a naturally positive disposition, quite the opposite. As I’ve started to see myself stressing more, I’ve noticed I’ve had some really down times, and it’s been a struggle. But it’s okay not to feel perky, to instead feel sad or lonely or depressed. Rather than berate myself for feeling that way and feel guilty because I know others have it worse than I do and then try to fight against the tide to feel a way I don’t, I want to accept this and ‘go with it’. Sitting with your emotions can be hard, but it’s doable, and in the long run it’s better to appreciate how you’re feeling and be gentle with yourself rather than feel bad about feeling bad.
5. Rest a little more – I have this need to be productive, which results in me getting rather frustrated at the moment because I’m quite restricted in terms of what I can do. My body is exhausted, it hurts, my brain is mushy. When I need to rest, I need to rest; my goal is to listen to my body more rather than keep pushing myself and overdoing it.
6. Start a course – To keep my mind active whenever it’s able to de-mushify itself, and to feel a bit more positive and prepared for the future, I want to sign up to another free online course. Perhaps something from Open Learn via The Open University. I enjoy learning and it’s good to add to your CV too.
7. Get Crafty – Doing anything creative is a challenge when feeling so exhausted and a little ‘stuck in a rut’. Perhaps a new sketch, or perhaps use up those ingredients that are going to waste in the cupboard to make some cookies! Maybe this time they will even be edible too…
8. Try to increase readership of my blog and Facebook followers – A tricky one, as I find it very difficult to share the blog and Facebook page! Not sure this will be very successful but I’ll try!
What are your goals for March?