I don’t often do tags and awards, except on certain occasions, this being one of them. Anything for body positivity gets a thumbs up from me! Big thanks to Ella for sharing her post and nominating anyone and everyone, so I’ll do the same.

Rules

  • Thank the person who nominated you and include a link to their blog in your post
  • Be truthful when answering the questions and don’t judge what other people have answered in their posts.
  • If you want to add any questions to this tag related to body positivity feel free to.
  • Try to nominate as many people as you can, if not everyone.

–  Questions  –

One feature you love about yourself?  My wrists, an odd pick I know!

One feature you wish/wished you could change that you are trying to accept or have accepted?  I’d always wanted to change a lot; my ‘thunder thighs’, fat knees, my nose, my teeth, my tummy, small boobs, stretch marks and cellulite. Now, I don’t know that I really want to change all of these things. Scars and stretch marks tell a story, cellulite is normal, I wasn’t blessed with teeth from an Oral B advert, my thighs are strong, my boobs are somewhat in proportion after I lost weight, and my tummy has been through a lot and deserves more respect.

Have you ever thought of getting surgery to change you imperfections? No, though I like the idea of a quick fix as most people do. I just don’t think it’s genuine or worth putting yourself through, and while you may change one ‘imperfection’, others are likely to come up. Surgery doesn’t resolve your feelings about yourself, it merely changes outer appearances.

One of your main role models for body positivity?  I don’t have a specific role model, but I have gained courage and inspiration from some wonderful guys and gals who strut their stuff in their undies and swimwear with an ostomy bag. I also admire plus size models who have been pivotal in helping transform advertising and the modern view of ‘beauty’.

Has a family member or friend ever put you down about your physical appearance? If so what for?   I remember things like “you’d be so pretty if you just lost a couple of pounds, not much, just a couple” when I was much younger, and I had comments through high school from bullies and the like, but that’s just part of life; realising that some people are hurtful and idiotic.

Something you love about your fashion sense or style?  It doesn’t require much effort, I just wear what I like or feel comfortable in that’s within budget, and I’m nothing if not a bargain shopper.

Why is your body a great place to be?  It has a second chance to live, and I owe it more respect, more care and more thanks for keeping going after what it’s been through.

Admittedly, I get frustrated by it. I’ve hated it. I’ve hated how it looks. That it doesn’t work like it used to. That it hurts, that I have to sit down a lot, but then have to stand up and move, that I feel so old sometimes as a result. But it keeps going. It deserves more love and respect, regardless of how I feel about it or how it looks. It’s me. Your body is you. There isn’t another one like you.

Are you body positive?  It’s not easy to learn to accept yourself, your size, your weight, how you look, and I’d be a liar and a hypocrite if I said I’m happy with myself. It’s a tough road, as those who have struggled with self-esteem, eating disorders, confidence etc will know. But I’m working on it, bit by bit, and learning at the same time to accept living with a bag too. It certainly changes the focus a little, from how you look to who you are, from how flabby your tummy is to the practicalities of coping with a bag. Nothing changes quickly and coming to the point of acceptance and even love towards yourself is hard, and it’s something to manage on a daily basis, but it is possible. Once you can appreciate the wonderful things your body does for you, you can stop beating yourself up about how you look and save all of that wasted energy for actually living your life.

I Tag…  Everyone who would like to take part and keep the cycle of body positivity going!

13 thoughts on “Love The Skin You’re In Tag”

  1. Having a chronic illness certainly helps to put our previous body hang ups into perspective doesn’t it?! I think it’s great to share your personal thoughts and feelings on your own body image to help others realise they aren’t alone when they experience negative thoughts too. My body hang ups have shifted from worries about how I look to instead struggling with how my illness makes my body feel. I get frustrated with it when I can’t do what I want to but you’re right it still deserves respect and now more than ever as it’s been through so much and is working that much harder! xx

    1. It definitely gives perspective, though I’ll be honest in saying that I’ve still struggled a lot with body image and the old hang-ups I used to have while coming to accept my health issues and the way my body is now. I think we can forget sometimes that all of this (acceptance, shifting thoughts, changing priorities etc) take time, and it’s a gradual process. Thanks for the comment Nat, I really appreciate you always taking the time to read my posts. And yes, respect is so important – make sure to remember this whenever you next feel low or frustrated with your body and give it the rest it deserves 🙂
      Caz x

  2. I like your answers a lot. Sometimes indeed people say things that hurt without even realizing. I also think there shouldn’t be a model for body positivity as much as it shouldn’t be a model for loosing weight or anything else. Really nice positive post, I love it. x

  3. Absolutely love your take on this, thank you so so much for doing it! I love the quote from you that quick outer appearance fixes do not fix your feelings about your body – it is so true and such a good reminder that you have to learn to love yourself! xxx

    1. It’s certainly not easy & I think it’s a day-by-day thing, but it’s so important. Thank you for reading & for the comment! ♥

  4. Well spoken. I used to hate my small stature (and the teasing I got) for a long time, but have got used to it. Actually I’m thankful for it – whilst I’m not teetotal I know that in my teens I’d have got into some pretty unhelpful drinking habits – if I hadn’t been afraid of going to pubs and being rumbled as an under-age drinker!!

    1. In addition to not taking to excessive drinking, you’ve probably saved yourself a few bumps on the head from low ceilings and trees, too! 🙂

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