Dealing with an invisible illness, be it mental or physical, can be a minefield of judgements, feeling let down and being bombarded with negativity. But we have more choice over who we listen to, agree with and associate with than we think. Know your own values and trust your instincts. You deserve to be treated with respect and you shouldn’t be made to feel negative or insecure or railroaded into a certain mindset, so take back some control over who and what influences you let into your life.
If bullies in school weren’t bad enough, it seems they have no upper age limit. It’s not confined to a classroom. Adult education, home, in public, at work. They’re weak, low and try to make themselves feel better by making you feel worse. It’s easier said than done, but don’t give them the power to make you feel like that; you have the ability to be assertive, get support, ignore when possible, and rise above it.
2. Racists, bigots, sexists, sizeists, homophobes, and anyone who thinks unjustified discrimination is acceptable
There’s a place for politically incorrect jokes and forgiveness for some small degree of ignorance. There’s no place for prejudiced treatment, violence or hate when it comes to these areas.
3. Fickle friends
Everyone knows someone that’s let them down or done something to upset them. People grow and change and move on, so sometimes it’s par for the course. If they don’t reply to your messages, aren’t there for you as a friend as you are for them, and make you feel like crap because it’s a one-sided effort, then perhaps it’s time to accept them as a casual acquaintance, or cut the cord completely and move on. I’ve lost so many friends when my life started falling apart and my health problems got worse. I don’t actually have friends around anymore to hang out or get support from nearby, but online friends have proven invaluable. It hurts less when you stop caring so much about those who let you down and you can find the compassion and friendship you deserve in other places. Plus, you come to realise just how strong and independent you really are.
From someone who messages and calls you a little too often for your liking, to, at worst, those who control various aspects of your life and manipulate you for a living. If you see a relationship going this way, face it head on. If you need help, please seek it – A friend, family, online support, a professional – you don’t need to deal with this alone. You have the freedom of choice and speech, a freedom to live your own life as you see fit. No one should make you feel uncomfortable, watched, pushed, controlled or as if you are answerable to them.
5. The media that tells us what to do/eat/believe, what not to do, and how we should look
We know better than to believe all the bullshit we read. Take the latest fads, diets and superfoods with a pinch of salt. Don’t be swayed and persuaded, bullied or pushed around by invisible know-it-alls. You are who you are. Your life is yours and we’re all different; our hobbies, interests, bodies, skin, health, occupation, bank balance, beliefs. Let’s start celebrating that diversity rather than letting ourselves be compared to idealistic standards that don’t exist and that we will never measure up to (because it’s impossible!) We are beautiful and brilliant, just the way we are 🌹
Tell the bullshit to piss off.